OT - NOPE
So to catch you all up on my SUPER fabulous life... I play video games. A lot lately... One in particular online game I have a guild in. Which is great. My guild, like pretty well every other guild is the game, is primarily male, which is no biggie at all.
That's just eh background, onto the issue at hand:
I'm not ready to date, so I'm super open about that, no false hope or expectations. But I am making loads of friends in the guild, sometimes one of the guys will hit on me or try to push for more, i let them know i"m not looking to date, it's no big deal, and we move forward and are just friends. I talk to pretty well everyone in the guild on varying degrees, they're a fairly close bunch and we get along great and have bonded over gaming, I have several coworkers in there as well, so there are real life friends.
There are a few guys in particular that I'm going to discuss.
Yes we have the PhD student I've previously mentioned. We talk literally all day eery day. Neither of us are ready to date, so yes, there is some flirting, yes he's cute. But we're both totally comfortable and have discussed that neither of us are looking for a relationship, so it's just friendship. This is a non-issue.
We have canadian homie, who did try and push for soemthing at first, and made me mildly uncomfortable, but I've reitterated my expectations and made it fully clear we won't be dating. He's chill with that. We talk as friends, and it's a non issue.
But then last one, who I THOUGHT was a non-issue. He's nice, easy to talk to, etc. So we chat, BUT he started calling me babe. I again, like before itterated how I don't want to date, I"m not ready for that. He still tried to use pet names some, but told me about how he understands and that's fine, but let's still be friends. The other day he even said "even though this is only a friendship, I'm glad we talk." And I was like "yeah, me too homie."
I thought with dude number 3... THings were smoothly solved. UNTIL last night. Canada mentions I said something to him. Legit about my life. So I woke up to messages becuase he said something and why am I talking to other people??? Well you see dude... Because we're not in a relationsip... And I enjoy good conversation... So apparently he IS an issue. I have again reiiterated my expectations and told him that we probably won't be talking as much.
But oh my gosh. I'm just never going to date EVER. All these crazies all over the place! Like I don't even KNOW these three people! Why is this an issue at all???
And that's on leaving step hell and being a single female. Gonna have to just start my hermit life and stop talking to humans all together.