I have three stepsons and one biological son (with husband). We have been together for 20 years. My stepson are now in their twenties. Up until two years ago, it has not been easy dealing with ex-wife. We have had lawyers involved several times. She has been very hurtful and very difficult to deal with. For the last two years, we have had no contact with her and it has been a lot less stress for us. The boys usually visit us once a week for dinner (they are all over 24 years old now).