A few weeks ago my SO told me his family was having Thanksgiving on Saturday the 23rd. He said he didn't want to go, though, because his mother would still be visiting family out of the country. His brother and his wife are best friends with his BM2 and really screwed him over by feeding her information on her last ex-parte attempt. So he said he wasn't going.

I told him if he changed his mind, i would go with him, though i was pretty happy not to have to. I made plans to go to my dad's tomorrow night (Sunday) but left tonight open just in case. So just now he tells me he changed his mind, he wants to go. His mother came back early and he always does what she says. Except they moved Thanksgiving to tomorrow night. Apparently they sent the info out on the family group chat last week but SO didn't read it. He has tried many times to add me to the chat but various family members just keep remaking it without me. Friends with BM2 and all. I told him i already made plans with my dad and to go without me.

I mean, there's no way i'm going. I'm happy not to go. Hardly anyone at his family gatherings even acknowledge my presence and i did try hard for several years, cooking and cleaning for these things. I'm still pissed, though. It hurts to be rejected, even by people you don't want to hang out with anyway.