I am so tired of being the only f*ing bad guy in this relationship! My SS16 was failing a class we know he could have done better in all year and he scraped by with a D- to pass it at the very end. If it was up to me only, I would ave hanged that boy! So my DH and i said fine, he's been grounded from everything for almost the whole school year so we will keep him in touble all summer but make it a half grounding. So we gave him back the XBOX priveledges and TV (mostly so he wouldn't drive us nuts), but he still has no musioc or phone priveledges. I thought that was extremely fair. So....his stupid f*ing grandparents on his mom's side decided to buy him an iPhone while he was at their house this week. And I know that when he is at his mom's every weekend she lets him have his phone. Now she wants us to "lift that part of the grounding". Are you f*ing kidding me? That's the only part left! BBBBIIIITTTCCCCHHHHH!!!!!! So her conversation with SS16 was something like this-yeah you can have your phone, it's fine with me, but let me see what your dad wants to do. Of course we get to be the bad guys again. So then she's like well, if you don't want him to have it, I will tell him to leave it at my house. So I told her make sure she tells hm to bring it here too, in case he wants to go somewhere and we need to get hold of him. I can't take this anymore-she is NEVER their mother-just tries to be their friend. i guess thats her way of making up for abandoning them-when they are with her there are no rules! It makes it really hard to raise them right and teach them values.What a cunt! My SS16 is my most responsible and most mature of the 4 kids and I am wondering if I should sit him down and explain things to him. Not badmouth his mom or anything, but just let him know that we are trying to teach him right by setting boundaries and punishments and that is why he is still in trouble. And also letting him know that we don't care if his phone is here, but he will only get to use it if we think he needs to. She pulled the leave it at her house crap because the SS11 does that-apparently if he brings his phone to my house he loses it-WHATEVER!!!!!!!!