I hate liars. Does anyone know anything about IEP? I am on a fact find mission for BF. I try to not get involved but i do like to give BF the facts and hope he will do the right thing with them. We have always had an issue with BM lying (about everything) but lately it's at an all time high and about stuff that she should not be lying about. Which has made BF and I question her more and look into the truth more. She called last night and said something to BF along the line of "Don't you trust me." "Do you think that I am lying" to which BF said nothing. She knows that her last few lies have been looked into. So lately it seems like she has been saying a lot more "Well, call them and you'll see" which I think she says so that we WON'T call them. (Yeah we still call them)

It started with SS6 yearly check up. BF asked her to ask the doc about a certin issue. BM said she did and it was nothing. BF called the doctor and the doc said that she didn't bring anything like that up.

The new issue, (becuase god knows there are more but I won't bore you guys)

SS4 was supposed to be in summer school. They had talked about it in his IEP meeting. (Individualized Education Program) And BF said everyone that was there agreed that it was best for him. Well he didn't get signed up, BM says that the school lost her check but when BF called them they had no record of even getting his paper work. Also it's the same story she gave BF last year when SS6 was supposed to be in summer school. BF is angry about it and has let BM know. So BM changed her story to, one of the teachers told her the summer school was a bad idea becuase he would have a new teacher. I don't buy that becuase all of his teachers were in the meeting and agreed to it, why would one of them tell her (and only her) that? She told us which one and said we could call her if we wanted. BF wants to call the teacher, I on the other hand think he should contact the school and the head of SS4's IEP group and tell them the story and then ask why the school didn't follow up on the IEP plan? I told him to tell the everything that way she can't blame him later, he shows he is concerned and committed. Plus with the IEP stuff I read online that with joint legal custody only one parent has to agree with the IEP plan for it to count and BF agreed with it, so even if she changed her mind it still shouldn't matter. What would you guys do - contact the individual teacher (who is probably going to have on clue what he is talking about) or the IEP group leader?

BF has this mentality that he hates dealing with BM and fighting her all the time. And has said that he just needs to follow up on stuff better, like the summer school registration. But I think some things are worth fighting for like medical and educational stuff. I think it angers me becuase I know he hates to fight but I know that if anyone tried to do that stuff to my kids, there would be a holy war.

I also suggested and BF agreed that this fall he needs to meet with the teachers and Principle to go over some issues he had last year with the school, basically they only called BM when there was an issue, even though he went in and gave them his information. Among other issues too of course.