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Submitted by SLTJ on Thu, 12/05/2013 - 11:19am

Maybe some of you will remember three months ago i split from my husband after 14 years of marriage. The crunch came when his daughter 27 invited just him to her wedding and not myself or our lovely 12 year old son. I coped with that but then she said i wasn't even allowed to go on the island in Greece where her wedding was being held and i waited for four months for my husband to do something or make a decision without me interfering but he didn't. This follows 14 years of marriage when

Psycho bitches

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Submitted by SLTJ on Fri, 09/20/2013 - 2:33am

Do you realize if anybody who wasn't a step mother came on this site they would think we were all psycho bitches! I am saying that laughing Biggrin but it is true. Even tho I have left my husband he still has the ability to make it all my fault - if only I could cope with it , if only I just let the fact he loves me so much be enough, other women could cope, he would cope. I feel like I'm going mental.

Ive left 8(

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Submitted by SLTJ on Wed, 09/18/2013 - 9:52am

I decided this weekend that I couldn't face a future with my SD in it and my husband unable to give me needed support, so Ive left. I am lucky as I am financially independent. I have at times like most people on here questioned my motives, my heart, wether I am going crazy, a bad evil person but I now think I have three amazing children who I have brought up to be loving, kind and respectful, so no its not me and I need to stop wishing for things to be different because they never will be.

Do you think being a step parent makes you feel and act like a worse person?

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Submitted by SLTJ on Wed, 09/11/2013 - 3:32am

Coping with the step parent issues often makes me feel like I am a bad person because of the feelings I get and if I could change ie be more understanding, patient, etc then everybody else would be happier. Does anybody else feel like this?
A few things I have had to cope with
SD ignoring me in my home being made to say hello goodbye etc
Finding out after three years of marriage my husband had a private health policy for himself and his 3 kids but had never added me to it and Id had a lump in my breast that he'd watch me wait for an appointment

Why are you allowing yourself to be ignored?

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Submitted by SLTJ on Wed, 08/28/2013 - 1:32am

I have read on here about people accepting the separation of your husband and SC ie your happy to allow your husbands to have a separate life with his kids grand kids. Is that really healthy and can it work to a happy marriage when your supposed best friend has a part of his life your not included in? For instance if he is a grand dad and wants to tell you funny cute stories about his GK does it not cut a hole in your heart to know you will never see him interacting with them?