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Submitted by SM12 on Thu, 07/30/2020 - 3:18pm

I think about that a lot.  Maybe I am selfish for not wanting to deal with my horrible stepkids.   Maybe I am selfish for starting to resent my DH for feeling like I am stuck here.   My BS is launched...a did my job and raised him to be a good human.  Now I am ready to begin pre-retirement.  But I can't because DH wants to wait until YSS has graduated.   

Maybe I am selfish for not wanting to spend money on his kids and would rather fix my hiuse up so i can sell it.  Maybe I am selfish for hating it when my skid is here.  
 

And now SS #3

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Submitted by SM12 on Wed, 07/29/2020 - 3:37pm

Quick background....married to DH 9 years.   He has three sons.  OSS and MSS have been PASd for at least 3-4 years by BM.   So far YSS14 has not been PASd.   From day one OSs and MSS dislikes me and my BS.   After a few years of trying to be understanding and make an effort, I stopped trying and disengaged.   
 

Grad ceremony update

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Submitted by SM12 on Wed, 07/29/2020 - 3:26pm

Wow it's been a crazy week so just now getting to update on graduation.   
DH went to MSSs graduation and I stayed home.  The ceremony was outside and they all had to wait as a group before being escorted to their area to sit.  The text BM sent DH about grad said masks were required.  Guess who shows up without any masks....BM, her SO and YSS.   Yup...DH and BMs elderly parents had to stand in the hot sun waiting for BM SO and YSS to get masks.  Omg.   

No ceremony for me!!

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Submitted by SM12 on Wed, 07/22/2020 - 10:34am

DH gets a text last night from BM with details on MSS s graduation this weekend and asking if we are going.  Apparently there are strict rules for people going and she wanted us to know.    Wear mask, social distancing etc.  Except each graduate is allowed a certain number of guests and they ALL have to sit together.   This makes Zero sense and who is going to enforce it but whatever. 

O/T. Boss coming to town

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Submitted by SM12 on Fri, 06/26/2020 - 1:10pm

I work from home and have for several years, which sucks when you have step he'll because everyone expects you to babysit the stepshits while you work.   But back to the topic...

I have had the same female boss the entire 8 years with my company.  She is around my age and we have gotten to know each other well.   She is newly divorced and likes to share her dating life details with me...sometimes way more info then I want.  
I like her as a person and enjoy working with her but sometimes tolerate her non work related chats just to keep the peace since she is my boss. 
 

No Fathers Day for DH

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Submitted by SM12 on Tue, 06/16/2020 - 10:53am

I kind of feel bad for him.   He won't see any of his kids on Fathers Day.  BM made is a point to schedule her vacation on Fathers Day so YSS will be gone.   He has no relationship with the older two so there will no well wishes from them.  And my BS, who is the only one who sends him a message and gift, lives out of state.   

I hate this for DH but sometimes wonder if he had stood up for himself more earlier on if things would have been different.  Who knows....just hoping DH manages to have a good day despite his spawn.

Oh I hope I am wrong

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Submitted by SM12 on Fri, 05/29/2020 - 11:39am

I think I have posted a few times about YSS wanting to stick around our house longer and longer each week.   Well in the last 10 days, we had him 7 and BM had him 2.  He was supposed to go to BMs yesterday but he had a friend pick him up and he stayed all night with a friend.    My gut is telling me that YSS May end up living with us soon.   I can see the writing on the wall.   YSS apparently hates going home to BMs.   I don't know if it is because of OSS and MSS or because he gets ignored...:or maybe he hates hearing BM and SO trash DH.   

Noticing a shift in YSS

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Submitted by SM12 on Wed, 05/20/2020 - 12:43pm

Since this whole COVID-19 drama and schools being out, I've noticed a change in YSS.   Now I am the first to say I am over him being here so much.  I'm used to him being at school during the day and since there is no school....he is here on visit days.   DH is here during one of the days with YSS but has to work the other day YSS is here.   

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