Is BF wrong to ask for joint legal and physical custody when BM is asking him to pay half of all their son's expenses - insurance including co-pays and non reimbursed expenses, clothes, transportation costs for parenting time and appointments and the like, child care, school stuff, activity fees, sports stuff (the last 3 are in the future)?

Why should BF offer or be required to pay half if he does not get equal custody/time with the child?

I should not be surprised since BM does some stupid things but this takes the cake. We picked up FSS at 3pm today. BM woke him up. He was in his car seat, not buckled in, on the kitchen table sleeping. BM hands FSS over to BF in a onesie and nothing else. No pants, no socks, nothing but his diaper and onesie shirt. Keep in mind its like 50 degrees, sunny and breezy outside. BF says "naked baby" to which BM replies, "he gets hot". We get FSS to his grandparents house and his diaper is soaked and he smells horribly of spoiled milk and sweat.

We are working on a parenting time agreement with BM. So far BF has asked for and BM has agreed to every Sunday 12pm to 4pm and Wednesday 5pmp to 8pm, every other holiday, overnights starting at age 1 for one night, and full weekends at 18 months old, the Sunday times would end when overnight begin, beginning the summer before school starts one full week in June, July and August, option to take BS to family events (birthday dinners, weddings, etc)...

My BD7 called me on Sunday stating she wanted to come home now and she was sick. BF has her until 6pm and it was only noon and he lives over an hour away. BD was sad and upset and said she did not feel well. I told her daddy could bring her home because I was not home to meet him but her sister 12 was home to recieve her. My ex called back and asked what BD's problem was and that she said I said he could bring her home if he wanted to. Anyway, it seems my BD7 was upset cause her friend from upstairs - he lives in a duplex - had to go to church.