Today I am at home while my soon to be husband is attending a sporting event for his daughter. I have not been invited to attend. In fact I have been told (by the BM) not to attend because it would make the daughter feel uncomfortable and may cause her not to do well. I don't want to be accused of being the reason she doesn't do well, so I stay home.

Several months before the season started my soon to be step daughter would talk about wanting me to attend but over time that has changed. The first time the biological mom called me and said it was "too soon" for me to attend.