I was never going to go down that road of not liking the x just because they had problems. I really thought we could all get along. She was remarried, we were happily married and starting a family. But somewhere along the way things became a disaster! Both kids lived with their BM. We had them every other weekend. I went & picked them up, we went to most of their games, I took them shopping, went on little vacations, had their BM and x in-laws over for holidays, etc.. I thought we represented a very healthy family...I was so wrong.