I know - How often do you see when the biological mom is the Disneyland parent and the Father is the actual crucial parent. Well, welcome to my life! Due to the hygiene, school, optometrist, doctors neglect by the mother my husband was granted physical custody of his 11yr old son. I'm now having to be responsible for driving him to school, lunches, snacks, school meeting, activities, dinner, and somewhere in all that keep myself sane. I don't have a child of my own and this is all too much without feeling appreciated. So I feel. I can be wrong. uGH!