I haven't been on Steptalk in a year & I'm happy to say that my life has changed so much. I split up w/ FH last April & it was extremely hard at first because I truly loved him & missed him but I realized that nothing was ever going to change. It didn't matter what I said or did. I never wanted to be a stepmom, especially to his children. They were raised so different from my own & I was so totally miserable. I got alot of advice from this site...some positive & some negative. I will say I still feel like I did. I don't like his children & never will. I truly tried but I've been so happy since I don't have to see them ever!! My ex still emails, calls & leaves me msgs on Facebook sometimes trying to get back together & I've boldly told him that I can't deal with his children & their BM's under any circumstances. It finally dawned on me that I could way away & he never could. I'm still single & I'm extremely happy with my life. I started a 2nd job last May to take up some of my time & help me get over the loss of my relationship & my 2nd job has been so rewarding. I'm a caregiver to a 59 year old woman who is physically & mentally disabled. She is a sweetheart!! I've been involved with her Special Olympics events & it's been incredible. So everyone I'm not an ignorant, heartless bitch. I just felt like I was being used & I was. I was paying all the bills in my house but had no say so when the Skids came. They took over everything, pissed all over the place & had no respect for me or my home. I'm just in a totally different place in my life now & I'm so so much happier now that I ended the relationship. So to anyone who has came here for advice & you were where I was a year ago...if you know things will never change, just give up!! Men will come & go but you stay the same & you need your sanity!! I definitely made the right choice & everyday I'm grateful for my freedom without the skids!! I hope everyone has a wonderful & joyous Easter.