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Submitted by Stepmom1966 on Fri, 04/22/2011 - 12:50pm

I haven't been on Steptalk in a year & I'm happy to say that my life has changed so much. I split up w/ FH last April & it was extremely hard at first because I truly loved him & missed him but I realized that nothing was ever going to change. It didn't matter what I said or did. I never wanted to be a stepmom, especially to his children. They were raised so different from my own & I was so totally miserable. I got alot of advice from this site...some positive & some negative. I will say I still feel like I did. I don't like his children & never will.

Treat you differently...

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Submitted by Stepmom1966 on Tue, 03/23/2010 - 1:38pm

I just wanted to ask everyone a few questions. Sorta've a poll:

1.) Does your BF/GF, Wife/Husband etc. treat you differently when the skids are there?
2.) How does it make you feel to be treated differently?
3.) Has is really affected your relationship?
4.) Have you ever considered leaving the relationship because of the skids?
5.) Do you & your BF/GF, Wife/Husband fight over BM consistently?

I just wanted to see how everyone else would answer these.
Thanks.

It happened already!

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Submitted by Stepmom1966 on Fri, 02/26/2010 - 3:43pm

The 12 yr. old SD texted all day today wanting a ride. She wanted us to go the whole way across town to take her up the street in a snow storm because BM is too lazy!!! I told you guys it's always something! Everyday! I should start answering my phone "Taxi Service!" I think I should leave a message on my VM "If you're calling for a ride, you've called the wrong #. The Taxi service # is ???-???-????!! I'm so fed up. I said I'm not going anywhere. So FH runs at their every whim! He drove across town to take SD up the street!!! I said "Why can't BM take her" oh, she's tired!!

What is Too Much???

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Submitted by Stepmom1966 on Wed, 02/24/2010 - 12:04pm

What is considered too much? BM already gets all of FH’s paychecks. We have them EVERY weekend. Then to top it off skids call all week in the evening after I get off work & want rides everywhere. Because BM is tired, lazy or just doesn’t feel like doing it. Excuse me but I work too & they’re not my kids. I’m so sick of my whole life being interrupted! If my FH’s at home when they call I’m expected to jump at their whim. I have flipped about this before & it stopped for awhile but now it’s starting up again.

In response to when will it end...

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Submitted by Stepmom1966 on Tue, 02/23/2010 - 9:32am

This was my original blog entry...
I have a question for anyone who may have the answer?? When do the weekend visits stop? At what age are the SK's no longer interested? By the time my children were 13, 14 & 17 the could've cared less to go to their Dad's. I just wondered has anyone been through it & know how much time I still have to do???? LOL

When will it end???

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Submitted by Stepmom1966 on Wed, 02/17/2010 - 1:21pm

I have a question for anyone who may have the answer?? When do the weekend visits stop? At what age are the SK's no longer interested? By the time my children were 13, 14 & 17 the could've cared less to go to their Dad's. I just wondered has anyone been through it & know how much time I still have to do???? LOL

HELP!!

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Submitted by Stepmom1966 on Fri, 06/26/2009 - 1:53pm

I AM A 42 YR. OLD FEMALE WITH 3 GROWN CHILDREN. BD-22, BS-19 & BD 18. MY OLDEST HAS LIVED AWAY FROM HOME FOR 3 YEARS. MY FIANCEE, AGE 36, HAS 3 CHILDREN TO 2 DIFFERENT WOMEN. BS-12, BD-11 & BD-6.