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Wow, is he serious???

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So custody was finally settled in February after 3 years of back and forth to court. He was awarded joint custody and no children support. She's now lost her source of supplemental income and has already requested an appeal. Of course, the judge awarded my days off as his days with the kids so I literally have no time to myself. The kids still have behavioral issues and SD is only getting worse. She is spiteful, lies and is manipulative. SD is mean to my son and play SO like a fiddle with her crying. He's wrapped around her bratty finger and he won't even acknowledge her bad behavior.

Unrealistic expectations

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This isn't necessarily about my SK, but their Dad. His son will be about 6'6" and he hopes he will play football and get a scholarship. Unfortunately, he is behind in development and can't do simple tasks that any 4.5 year old can do. SS will be starting kindergarten in August at a charter school and my husband tells me today he isn't worried about his education or passing classes, he thinks they will move him along no matter what. He thinks that if excels in football education doesn't matter.

Worse by the weeks

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Every week when SD comes over, her attitude is worse than the week before. Last week, we took all the kids to the pumpkin patch and while riding on a ride my SD hits another little girl because she said hi to her. SD admitted to hitting the little girl, I told her Dad what happened and his response was "let's go on another ride." Rewarding her for bad behavior...how is that possible? She shouldn't have been able to ride anymore rides.

No Discipline for the SKs

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It feels like every week there is a new issues with the SKs. SD is the only girl and BM treats her like queen, she gets away with everything, is a bully, destructive, and beyond spoiled. I've tried talking to my husband about her behavior, he admits there is an issue, but doesn't address it. He defends her behavior with the excuse that they are only here two days per week. She goes into the drawers in our room, takes our tablets and hides them in her blanket. She uses them when she thinks we can't hear her.

I'm not a built in babysitter

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My husband just got a new job after being laid off and his scheduled to work on his days with his kids. Without being asked, he assumes I'm going to watch them all day on my days off. I'm not a built in babysitter just because we are married and I shouldn't have to watch them for hours on end. While he wasn't working, I paid for my son to attend summer camp and daycare so he didn't have to watch him for up to 11 hours while I worked. I don't understand how the courtesy isn't reciprocated. Whenever I bring up the care for his kids or my time, he gets defensive and doesn't seem to get it.

Can't take much more

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My husband and I have been friends for 14+ years and will have been married for two years in October. I have one son who is 5 and is going to kindergarten, I share custody with his Dad who has him on the weekends. My husband has 4 kids, but only has visitation with his twins that are 4. He has been battling his custody case for joint custody for over two years and it's still not resolved. In 2015 his BM has requested that he has his kids on my days off so that he isn't overwhelmed taking care of them and the judge awared his temporary days.