You're Probably an Enmeshed BFF Helicopter BM If. . .
1. You allowed your child to have a FB account under the age of 12
2. You completely ignore said child's obscenity and nastiness on their FB posts
3. You "parent" by posting some state law after your child posts they are flouting said law
4. You post on your child's love interest's site when said love interest posts a meme such as "I don't need google; my GF knows everything"
5. Your post concerning number 4 is: "that is correct and if she DOESN'T know everything she asks her MOM" (smiley face)
Seriously? Now I know some CP BMs on this site would think this is perfectly normal, but I, as a one time single parent CP BM think it is NPD.
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My 11 year old in sixth grade
My 11 year old in sixth grade does have her own cell phone but is not allowed social media yet. I think legally you have to be 13 to have facebook too.
and I didn't get her the cell phone. Her dad did but we sure as heck monitor it
One of BS6 friends has a FB
One of BS6 friends has a FB account... I know because he sent me a friend request.. and his mother must know because she is friends with him! He's a nice little boy and I like the family.. but damn!
Both skids had FB accounts before they were 10. Also had their own cell phones before 10.
My SD's got access to
My SD's got access to computers outside our home. Honestly with most kids having cell phones, it is pretty easy for them to open their own accts. I used to do regular searches on the platforms I knew about and would find accts. My DH is not very computer savy.. but I would let him know what his snowflakes were up to. I would also advise him when his snowflakes were posting or friending innapropriately.
Like the time when my YSD had a contest with a friend of hers to see how many FB friends they could amass in the shortest time. Well, when I started seeing really random people on her acct, especially 20 plus YO guys with NECK Tattoos.. Her dad stepped in and put a stop to it.
Both girls are over 18 now and they STILL occasionally (well more the 18 yo) post stuff that is a little iffy... but I let their dad know and they have taken things down. Sometimes it's stuff like putting too much personal info online like travel plans.
A woman I went to HS with (30
A woman I went to HS with (30 years ago) just did this and was robbed. I pretty much lurk on social media. I rarely post anything but will "like" stuff. I only am really on app to kind of keep up with my HS friends from the army base in Germany. Maybe a little bit of family stuff too, but I have it pretty locked down.
Recipe for disaster.
Recipe for disaster. Unfortunately, it will be society's disaster to support...
I feel like too many parents
I feel like too many parents these days have this approach to parenting. It makes it more difficult for parents that monitor to have it thrown in their face (so and so's parents dont do this!!)
Monitor monitor monitor. Its your job as a parent to teach. If your child is using poor language and is not communicating (social networking) in an appropriate manner, the child needs to be disciplined/educated. Actually can be used as an education tool. My son is 15 and I have his passwords to his email accounts facebook and instagram.
I have a SS who is 20 and should not have social media. When he lived with me I deleted his FB account because of inappropriate conduct. So the other side of the coin is know your child and what they are doing.
Seems like no one wants to take responsibility anymore....
SS11 has a "Facebook". He
SS11 has a "Facebook". He doesn't use it but it sure comes in handy when her flavor of the week eventually realizes what she is and blocks her but forgets to delete her kid.
Then, to make it even more entertaining leaves his tablet signed into his Facebook and sexts these guys. This happened almost a year ago-and SO and I found out when his tablet started blowing up. That was the end of that.
1. irresponsible when you
1. irresponsible when you know your child has been emotionally hobbled (by you)and is 6 years behind in that aspect.
2. idiotic "my child right or wrong" crap.
3. posting instead of discipline, good one, Girhippo.
4. enmeshment.
5. enmeshment on steroids and NPD.
My son has my old cell phone
My son has my old cell phone because he gets off the bus and walks home from the bus stop. It is shut off in the backpack and he knows not to take it out for any other reason than to call and tell me he is home.
I love the kid tons and we have a good relationship, but my job is to teach him to be a good productive person not be his buddy.