Why is it that DH thinks that I am not going to figure this one out. After our blow up last week he has chosen to reward sd14 for lying. The lying from SD14 has gone on for almost 2 years now. Stupid stuff, important stuff. I am convinced that SD14 has learned that BM is the boss oveer DH and she now knows she can do the same.

This all started when we caught BM and SD14 lying about the correct time of her confirmation classes. DH was having to take SD14 home at 6:30 am on the Sundays so she could get to confirmaiton class by 8:00 am of the every other weekends we have had her for the past year. When the lie was discovered; confirmation class didn't start till 7:00 PM, I put my foot down and told my DH that the decree says 6:00 pm and we will stick by it no matter what. Well when DH told this to BM she begged and pleaded to bring SD14 home early since she only had 2 classes left through lent. DH tells me he told her she should have thought about that before she lied to him. He also told SD14 the same thing along with giving her the "speech" about lying (AGAIN) I thought to myself at that time "wow, me losing my cool finally is making him stand up to her after all the years, she controled him".

So here it is on Sunday around 3:30 and I ask my DH if I should start dinner so SD14 can eat before he leaves to drop her off at 6:00pm. He then mentions that when him and SD14 where playing volleyball the day before, she begged him to bring her back an hour earlier so she can make it to confirmation on time. (the 6:00 pm drop off time was more than enough time to get her there on time). The first thing that came to my mine is "well, BM won again". I just stood there and told him, ok, that will work and went on with what I was doing. He then came up to me and said she was almost in tears and I don't think it is fair to maybe make her late when she has gone to confirmation class for this long. But on the other hand I don't want you mad at me. I wanted to scream and cry at the same time. Inside, I was thinking, there you go nothing like rewarding her for lying. And wanting to walk into the other room and tell my SD14 she needs to re study her 10 commandments again, especially the one that says "thou shall not lie". But I didn't........ I waited till they left and screamed at the top of my voice those statements. Then after I was done, I realized, my SD14 didn't even bring her church clothes with her this weekend. So everything was a lie. He never spoke to BM or SD14. WOW..... Thank goodness my 23 daughter came home and we began to cook dinner.

When he did get home things resumed as normal and I did everything in my power to be myself. It is hard pretending. I so much wanted to tell him to pack his shit, go back to BM and SD14 cause your lies about having her control you during your entire marriage and how much better his life is now with someone who lets him do things and lets him be in control of himself.

I keep telling myself to just let it go. SD14 is not my child and I cannot tell him how to raise her. I have realized our parenting skills are the same when it comes to my children but not when it comes to his. And mine are fully grown so there has never been an issue with eithr one of them. I actually looked at him this morning with not an ounce of respect.