OK, my husband and I moved in together two years ago this month. He had been separated from his "wife" for three years, but the kids had high hopes they would get back together as most kids do no matter how awful it is. He was her puppet. She controlled him and all of his money. I changed all that. HA, well some of it. He grew a pair and started standing up for himself and we went through the divorce process together and even filed bankruptcy for them. I put out a pretty penny to help get this done.