This is the response my DH gives to me sometimes just to be funny. It always cracks me up. For instance, if I ask: "Do you want steak, baked potato, and salad for dinner?" He will say, "Is a hundred pound rabbit big?"

So, this is what I said to my SD12 last week when she asked me to be her running buddy for an "all girls" running program at her school. BUT, after I told her that I would love to be her buddy, I then asked her if she had asked the BM already. She told me that she didn't think BM would want to do it because everytime BM runs (to get a beer), she pulls a muscle in her leg. So, I said "okay - I just want to make sure that BM will NOT want to do this with you, because I don't want her to get her feelings hurt". Honestly, I could care less about BM's feelings, but we've had issues before when skids will ask me to do something, and I would rearrange my schedule, and next thing you know, the BM decides to step up and do it, and I get replaced. This hurts MY feelings, but I can't get mad at the skids. DH does get mad at them on my behalf, but I never show my hurt feelings - I put my "game face" on.

Anyway, yesterday, DH gets a text from BM that goes like this:

BM - SD12 told me that Wedded insisted on being SD12's running buddy.

DH - No, SD12 ASKED Wedded, and said that you wouldn't want to do it.

BM - Well, that's not what SD12 is saying.

DH - (calls BM - he hates texting, unless it can be a one-word answer.) He tells her exactly how my conversation went with SD12. He told her that I suggested to SD12 that her BM might want to be her buddy. He also reminded BM that she saw the paperwork regarding the whole "running buddy" needed. BM admitted that she probably wouldn't want to do it, but she didn't want me "insisting" to do it. DH told her he didn't know why SD12 would say that, but he would get to the bottom of it.

Me and SD12 get home from running practice and DH takes me into the bedroom to tell me what BM said. Again, my feelings are hurt, BUT, I felt kinda sorry for SD12 (and pissed off, too) because SD12 is soooo desperate for BM's attention and approval (BM favors SD10 to the EXTREME!).

DH and I decided to let it go for now. This will be a long running program with a 5K to run in Mid-November, and then preparing for the spring race.

Today, as I sit and think about all this......... I wonder - Are we doing the right thing? Should I let DH jump all over SD12 about lying to her mother? This isn't the first time something like this has happened with SD12. Talking bad about me with her mother is the ONE thing they have in common, the ONE thing they can share. BUT in our home, SD12 is so loving, and extremely respectful to me. This kid lives in TWO totally different worlds..........but it still doesn't take away my pain.