I am feeling guilty as there just seems to be less time to do stuff with the kids what with my BF and I both working shifts (we try and swap around so one of us is home but it means less time when we are both home) and I am studying. Plus general life stuff like housework, homework, packed lunches.

The kids also spend more time in their own bedrooms - tv, music, gaming etc. I expect that is normal at their ages. :/

Because I really don't know!

Since the court order SD has been making comments about her life with BM - just random bits and pieces. Yesterday she said some stuff about a boyfriend of BM who social services said wasn't allowed around the children but that BM allowed him to sleep over and stay when the kids were there. He even used to hide when BM's mother went round.

She has also mentioned various violent incidents and times when BM has been drunk and they haven't been able to wake her up when they were alone with her.

He has been told this by his BM. Since I met my BF his ex has gone through phases of "loving" me and phases of hating me. She has fallen out with friends and family if they dared to comment that she should do more with the kids or that she shouldn't have been going out drinking when it meant me having the kids as my BF works shifts. Not really an issue now as they live here full time.

But SS has mentioned to his dad a couple of times that BM says he isn't to be friends with me. His behaviour towards me hasn't changed at all though.

If the children go from being with their dad maybe 3 or 4 nights a week minimum and pretty much every weekend to being with there full time does it change the home situation?

Is there a transition period? Acting out? Changes in rules and roles?