Well we are on day 6 of DH at MIL’s. Ultimatums’ are risky, really risky. Long story short, I gave DH an ultimatum that he had a year to deal with SS14, either medicate him, put him in boarding school, or back with BM. Problem is DH works 60+ hrs a week, leaves me to deal w/a kid that is mean, disrespectful, manipulative and prone to tearing doors off hinges and punching holes in walls. Well year is up, DH has not made any changes, I can no longer deal with a kid that is taller than I am and outweighs me and feel safe.
SS14 and SS9 were visiting with BM, DH was supposed to leave SS14 with BM, but did not and now knows that if he brings this boy in our home I will leave. DH actually had to take Emergency vacation from work , and still dosen’t know what to do, BM dosen’t want him, he tore up her house also, she had to call police on him. DH did of course dump SS9 on me and run like a B*&^ back to Mommy’s house. The house is in both of our names, when we married we kept one of the houses as a rental, which is empty, I could move in there. I suppose I’ll hold my ground and see if he’ll really bring him back here. It’s the waiting I hate, kind of like pulling a band-aid off really slowly, I’d rather have it just ripped off and get it over with.
I also want to say what God send this site has been for me. I came here and felt so much better than the villanous wench I was feeling like. Let's face it, we don't always get a lot of support from DH's or their families, and it's better to get it out than hold it in. I am able to spew some venom, then go give DH a kiss, and pat SS9 on the head and go on with my day. Thank you.