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Submitted by imagr8tma on Mon, 06/22/2009 - 11:47am

Well, we just had the first of our 2 week summer visits with SD. We had a blast - bought sd a new bike (with helmet and elbow/knee pad) taught her how to ride it, did a couple of pool outings, beach outing, arcade, etc. It was a fun time. DH took sd to a Father Daughter dance - so we purchased her a new dress and did her hair and nails.

BM had told me not to comb or wash her hair for the 2 weeks as i may mess it up or use something to break her out.

So needless to say - I ended up washing her hair as 2 weeks of no washing or combing is extremly poor hygeine - and i was not even having that.

It has been quiet from the BM so far. I am surprised she has not called DH and cussed him out yet - but maybe - just maybe - she realized that asking me not not to comb her hair was just crazy in the first place.

We shall see. We might just have a surprise waiting for us on 3 July when DH goes back to get her for the next 2.5 summer visitation. Hopefully, it will not be more lies or another affidavit to the court.

At any rate....... she is being "quiet" for right now..... AND i am hoping it is just going to stay that way.

Court is on 14 July - So i know she needs some reasoning since nothing else worked with the false allegation and counselor - I am praying it stays quiet.

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Submitted by Gia on Mon, 06/22/2009 - 11:51am

I'm glad you did what's best for this little girl which is, washing her hair and clothes!

Good lord, that woman is dumb...

~You can see clearly only with your heart. What is truly important is invisible to the eyes~ Antoine de Saint-Exupéry's

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Submitted by BMJen on Mon, 06/22/2009 - 11:53am

hair washed for two whole weeks? Seriously. How stupid do you have to be to actually say you do not want your child to have her hair washed for that long? It should be washed EVERY SINGLE DAY!

~All you need is Faith, Trust, and a little bit of Pixie Dust~

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Submitted by imagr8tma on Mon, 06/22/2009 - 12:01pm

Since we are african american we have dry hair and can not wash it every day or it will break off and be very dry.

But in my house we wash our hair about every 3 or 4 days and deep condition it as well. So since that is the schedule for me and my daughter - i put sd right in the mix. So needless to say step daughter had her hair washed a total of 4 times before she went home. I washed it before she went back home cause we went to the beach the day before.

AND her clothes were all clean too. I don't get it.

I wouldn't dare let my feelings for someone else stop that person from doing what is right for the child.

But hey - I have come to realize - BM had decided in her heart and mind to hate any woman DH has in his life - So therefore she hates me.

I am not going to let that rule my house or how i treat that little girl.

So she will continue to be an idiot and send stup texts and emails - that will show up in court on 14 July. We will see how she wiggles out of that stuff.

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Submitted by BMJen on Mon, 06/22/2009 - 12:04pm

should be right on the same schedule as you and your family! It's called hygene, BM should read up on it! LOL

~All you need is Faith, Trust, and a little bit of Pixie Dust~

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Submitted by onehappygirl on Mon, 06/22/2009 - 1:46pm

Did BM give you her orders on the phone or in an e-mail? If it was in an e-mail, maybe you can use that at your court date to show that she is trying to set you up. My thought is that if you didn't wash her hair or clothes, she would have gone after you for neglect of some kind.

Love me or hate me, I'm still gonna shine!!!

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Submitted by imagr8tma on Mon, 06/22/2009 - 1:57pm

Email and text to DH. She does not want me doing anything with my sd at all. She has verbalized on several occaisions to DH that when sd comes for her visits that he is the only one that is to interact with her.

BM means his mom, his sister, me, my daughter and anyone else. She even filed an affidavit in January alledging sd is anxious, nervous and afriad of DHs family and friends. That instead of spending his time with sd - he allowed her to be with other family members and friends and that she was abused.

I couldn't believe the lawyer even filed this affidavit with the court. But they did and we will be in court on 14 July.

Yeah, I know she is attempting to set me up - I was in no way going to neglect my sd for 2.5 weeks. I am not that dumb, I guess she thinks i am though. I think she may use the fact that she explicitly told me not to and i went against her wishes. I dont know for sure - but in all honesty - I don't get her. I wish she would just get a damn life and stop hating me for no reason.

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Submitted by onehappygirl on Mon, 06/22/2009 - 2:18pm

That these BM's think they can tell our DHs what they can and cannot do with their own children in their own home!!! My DH shares 50/50 with the Wookie and we have the kids every other week. My SD's hair is pitiful. It's very straight and fine and gets tangled in uncombable mats. And she doesn't take care of it. She will wash her hair or get out of the pool and not comb it or brush it at all. It's always in her face and sticks to her when she is sweating. Well, the Wookie specifically told DH that neither he or I are "allowed" to cut SD's hair. Well, yesterday, I reminded SD that she needed to brush her hair and what happened? She didn't brush it and now it's all matted up again. So, DH said that he will be taking SD to get her haircut this week, and he will have it cut in a pageboy at chin length. That will look soooo cute on her. It's now several inches past her shoulders and very uneven and unkempt.

Love me or hate me, I'm still gonna shine!!!