I usually use this site just to vent so my poor DH doesn't have to hear all the garbage on my mind when he is already in the middle of it. I try sometimes to read all the updated stuff and put in my two cents if I think it will help. You are all great for listening and I love to read the responses. It is really good for me to get another perspective on things sometimes. After all, we can't be right all the time. I just told SS16 he is supposed to be at his mom's for week in August and straight off the bat he said he wasn't going and idn't want to. Usually I would have told her, hey, SS16 and SS18 don't want to go, but this time I am leaving it up to them. I think they need to stand up for themselves and it will do them a world of good to see she won't fall apart without them. I am certain she will try to guilt them into it, but if she does, they will know in the end it was a mistake. SS16 told me all she and her hubby do is work when the kids are there and they get stuck in the house all da doing nothing. Bummer. If it is that important to them, I think this is a geat time to teach them to stand up to her. I told SS16 he doesn't have to go if he doesn't want to but he needs to let her know. Hopefully she won't be too hard on him.