well two things: 1.It's really nice that you are being shown by ss6 you are appreciated and respected that he would look to you to have his needs met...that says A LOT about how much he trusts you and loves you! 2. Why wasn't BM stepping up? Does she feel intimidated? Ashamed at her lack of involvement? Awkward maybe?

Being a BM myself I can sort of understand if she felt those things at that moment but it's also obvious to me as a stepmother AND a BM that she really isn't trying hard enough to be mommy. When my bs7 was living with his dad for a short time(hard times for me) I was truly ashamed of myself that I didn't have my baby with me full time and his stepmother was just SO great with him and he would often slip and call me by her name when he was with me. It hurt but being apart from him was something I needed to do temporarily. I resented her because she was able to be with him when I couldn't but I also valued her because she was there when I wasn't...it's a double edge sword. But then again, I was always on time,always took him to his activities when he had them and picked him up several times a week. I still felt awkward around her due to my own insecurities but I NEVER made it known to anyone because I truly appreciated her efforts.

Hopefully this BM you're dealing with will come around and see that you are good for her child and you're treating him great...it should be a comfort to her not having to worry about things like, "my childs stepmother abuses him, she doesn't feed him, she does drugs,she doesn't play with him,she neglects him,etc..." She needs to recognize how lucky she is that her son got YOU as a stepmom instead of someone who would treat him like a burden and be mean to him.

The thing that impresses me most about America is the way parents obey their children. ~Edward, Duke of Windsor, Look, 5 March 1957