No offense intended to Pac. NWerners but nearly everyone I interface with from up there is incapable of making a decent decision and many struggle with being decent people even to family members. The SpermClan and most of my I-L's have a tenuous grasp on decision making at best.

My wife is in to her third full day of a four day visit with her family.

The I-L drama:

S-I-L is now flunking out of college and my wife has spent two days trying to work with her and her advisor on the most direct degree plan with the least difficult curriculum possible. Guess what? S-I-L's husband had no idea that the ~$40K in school loans S-I-L has taken out was that much and he had no idea she was flunking. How is that for spousal information sharing?

This is the girl that we brought to live with us and offered to put through college in an effort to try to keep her out of the family business of out of wedlock pregnancies and financial destitution. She quit school after her Freshman year of college, moved home, got pregnant, had an OWL kid and has managed to accomplish exactly squat academically after she moved home and has now saddled herself, her husband and their OWL son with more debt in school loans than they will ever be able to pay off. Her proudest accomplishment "at least I was not a TEEN single Mom like you were". She actually said this to my Wife. Grrrrrrrr! I had to bite my tongue like you would not believe on that nugget of rhetorical elocution.

My M&F I-L have gotten there no shit last chance no way to recover foreclosure notice on their mortgage. This would be the mortgage that was only 7yrs from being payed off nine years ago but that has now been second, third and God knows how many more mortgaged to the point that is worth far less than they owe. But it is the agricultural Mecca and must be bowed to and preserved at all insanely ridiculous cost. It is F'in dirt for God sake. Let the good for nothing piece of dirt go for God's sake. PLEASE!

My youngest B-I-L is once again on a voluntary combat tour so that he can try to save his parent's home/farm from foreclosure. This is his THIRD voluntary combat tour that he has served in an effort to bail out my I-Ls from their long and distinguished history of crappy financial decisions. (2 in Afghanistan and currently 4wks in to an Iraq tour) These people are well on their way to bankrupting a second generation with their complete inability to make a good decision. My M-I-L actually called the bank to see "if my Son's death benefit pays off what is the last possible date we can catch up on our payments and not lose the farm". Really, no shit, she actually did this. :jawdrop:

My oldest B-I-L and his hag of a wife are once again ignoring my Wife at a family gathering and are not allowing my Wife to hold her latest niece (~6wks old)from their scary coupling. She just called me in tears that they are doing their same old crap. I had to once again make her laugh so that she could go back to a family gathering with a smile on her face. These are the people who used to call, visit and interface with her/us regularly. They decided that it was their sole mission in life to out earn/buy my wife and I. Every time we visited we used to get the "come look at my shed, it is bigger than your shed", "check out my new (used) truck (long ago repo'd)it is nicer than your new (new) truck (paid off and sold about two new cars ago)", "check out our new (resale) house (now foreclosed) it is nicer than your (semi-custom new) house (sold for a nice profit a year and half ago), etc ........." These are the same people with an amazingly developed case of "Emperor's New Clothes" syndrome who tried to convince us and the rest of the family that they were moving in to their "new" place (after they were foreclosed on by their mortgage company) and then moved in to yet another "new" place after they were evicted from for non payment of rent three months after moving in to the first "new" place all while trying to convince the rest of the family that they moved both times because the previous place was too small. I could go on and on with this B-I-L and his devil hag of a cow wife. This B-I-L used to call me every pay period to compare pay checks. He is an unskilled ag worker who works 100+ hours a week. What he does not understand is that Ag is about the only industry that does not pay time and a half for O/T. I never told him what I make and would just say "wow, good job you are doing pretty well" but he stopped interfacing with us (including my wife) not long after I got aggravated with him after nearly a year of the "I bet I made more than you this month" calls and told him to call and talk with his sister instead of trying to compete in an arena that he can't touch and that if he works another four+ weeks at 100+ hours a week he won't make what I do in 40hrs. (I know, bad Rags, bad). He used to bring up that Bill Gates did not finish college and is the wealthiest man in the world. Every time he brought this up I just told him that he is not Bill Gates and that he needed to get his butt back in school or back in to the Army. As usual, no one in the I-L family listens to our/my advice.

The crowning moment of pride for that marriage? "Our (first) child was not BORN out of wedlock". This less than 9mos after they called us on the return from their 2day honeymoon that we had to pay for because they were too broke to pay for it themselves in order to tell us "guess what, just to see, we bought a EPT on our way home and we are ....... pregnant!" They actually thought we were stupid enough to buy this load of self delusional crap. Youngest B-I-L confirmed the obvious when he told us a couple of years later the story of how Oldest B-I-L's hag got pissed and moved out the month before the wedding because "he got her pregnant" before they were married. That is what happens when you quit taking your pills you ignorant cow and you don't wear a jimmy-hat you dipshit! No Pill No Thrill, No Glove No Love! Learn it, love it, live it and save the world or at least your sister and I from having to keep another of your children from starving.

I am now more than ever absolutely convinced that my wife is a mutant or an alien because she can not possibly share the same gene pool with her family.

They all ignore the unequivocal facts that my wife graduated HS with her class with honors as a Single Teen Mom, went on to complete a dual major Undergrad with Honors, an MBA with Honors and came withing 4pts of passing all four sections of the CPA exam on the first sitting. She passed the fourth section with ease on her second testing. She passed three out of four on the first sitting.

All S-I-L and Oldest B-I-L and his hag of a wife can say is something along the lines of "at least our children were not born/conceived out of wedlock when we were in our teens".

Yes, my wife had our Son (my SS) when she was 16 but she made it her goal in life to not be a statistic. She is an example and her family cannot comprehend what she has accomplished. Maybe my comments along the lines of "is it worse for a 16yo to get pregnant or a 20+yo to get pregnant. You tell me if the 16yo or the adults have made a worse decision?" have contributed to this ignorant crap. (I know, once again, Bad Rags, Bad)

Except for the crap described above they are all actually very good people and I enjoy spending time with them.

But, I guess that statement would be roughly akin to asking Mary Todd Lincoln "other than that Mrs Lincoln, how was the play?"

Sorry for the rant but you would think the Toothless Moron Pac NW SpermClan would be enough of a cross to bear.

Grrrrrrrr! I am hurt and angry for my wife.

Come home soon Honey and please, please, please do not read STalk until this messages gets buried very, very deep.