you know, I found you guys just at the right time. I was talking to my DH about this week end, and we are getting SS Saturday morning, rather then Friday night due to his Lacrosse practice & pictures --- and then we have my nephew's party in a couple of hours away, which will be fun. My DH says "So Saturday is going to be busy." And I respond, yeah, and she's getting SS at 6PM on Sunday, right?" Which is what the divorce agreement says -- 7PM Friday - Sunday 6PM every other week --- which we NEVER get -- BM usually sends her mother around 1PM to pick him up. And then he says " I don't want to fight, I know you like to fight, but I told BM that it can vary week"... so I said, "Well, you do know that by doing that, you are giving everyone (SS) permission to break the visitation agreement." And then DH says "No, no I'm not giving SS permission to see us when he wants..." etc. And you know what??? They deserve each other --- I am the one f&cking fighting to get more time with a f&cking kid who isn't even MINE!!!! I would NEVER stand for this... but it seems that my DH really DOESN'T want to see his BS more... or else HE would fight himself, no??? F&ck it. More time for my kids and my family.... SS is a sweet kid, I do love him, but life is easier without him here, frankly!
I feel kinda betrayed though from my DH --- I guess I feel like I've stuck my neck out, and had fights with BM & her SO other not getting SS as much as we are allowed to, fighting for HIS kid... so now, things will be VERY different if I'm not involved!! BM thinks that I MAKE problems --- my DH would see his BS LESS if I wasn't constantly saying that I wanted to go back to court, get the parenting time my DH has a right to.
I actually asked my BFF to "keep me accountable for no longer getting involved in this mess." Soooo... like at Christmas, when BM doesn't want SS here, or SS gets mad at DH --- it is ON THEM & THEIR dysfunctional relationships, NOT mine
Ugh. I hate that at the end of all this --- it is ME who feels stupid. Maybe that is my sign that if I don't get involved (even though I feel it is the right thing to do, to try to maintain a healthy consistent relationship with SS for the sake of MY kids --- who really love him and look up to him) I would be left over with this hangover of bad feelings about myself and the whole situation.