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Kerrid04's picture

Submitted by Kerrid04 on Fri, 07/15/2011 - 1:41pm

I had to go to dr. for a check-up being as i'm 5 1/2 months pregnant. I left my BD/2 and SD 7 at my mothers house for about an hour and a half and when i get there my mom is pulling her hair out cause SD is so out of control the word my mom used was manipulative. If it wasn't think it was another. She takes toys from the little kids. (My mom has custody of my nephew who will be 3 in a couple of months)She is told not to do something so she tell BD & Nephew to do it right after she being told not to do it her self. DH tells me to call him after i pick up the kids so he can hear about the Doctors so I text him that I was disappointed in SD he calls asks what she did I give him the list and he asks to talk to SD when she gets the phone she starts crying after talking about a min. I get the phone back and DH said i don't know what to say but your mom is going to find 500 things SD does wrong. couldn't believe my ears my mom is the most easy going, don't give a crap attitude Grandma you'll find. I was speechless that he was going to blame it on my mom he blamed SD getting in trouble at school on the teachers and other kids(Last Year) lets see what happens this school year now that we changed her schools. I just hung up I don't know how to get him to realize SD is acting out but when he is around he doesn't pay attention to anything she does as long as she is not doing anything to his stuff.

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Done WIth It's picture

Submitted by Done WIth It on Sat, 07/16/2011 - 10:37am

I'd let husband know you can't keep SD away from the teachers or your kids, but you sure can from your mother. She's lost the priviledge to be with your mom because of her bad behavior and because husband enables her to be deceitful.

Let your children know her behavior is not good and you will be very sad if they behave like she does and hurts people's heart by being mean.

Sorry, dads can be like that thinking their daughters on picked on and it can take years before they realize, if ever, how manipulative and evil they are. Been then and it is pure misery with the sociopath....I mean.. sociopaths!!

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Submitted by Kes on Sat, 07/16/2011 - 1:13pm

I really feel for you. My SDs and their BM are paranoid, and blame their schools for them messing up - even after DH put them in a different school it was the same old paranoid crap! But I am lucky as my DH knows it is crap. I am so sorry that your DH is taken in by the SD and her manipulations. Your mum sounds lovely. Don't inflict the SD on her again too soon. DoneWithIt's suggestion sounds good.
If I were you I wouldn't complain about the SD too much to your DH. Let him find out in his own good time - which he eventually will when she gets in the same trouble at her new school.