Tomorrow will be interesting...

It's time for SS4 IEP meeting (individualized education planning) because they think he has Autism (high-functioning). But since getting him into school he has improved greatly.

Any way where it's going to get interesting is at the last meeting in May the group (of teachers, school officials, therapists, and parents) all agreed that SS4 should go to summer school, well he didn't. BM said she would get a therapist to go to the sitters but she didn't.

BM claimed that the School lost her check but when BF called the school the had no record of his registration or a missing check. Then BM said that one of the teacher told her that Summer school was a bad idea because SS4 wouldn't know the teacher and might freak out, which is not what they had agreed to in the IEP. The teacher that BM claims said that retired that year and there is no way to ask her. When BF tried to get him signed up they said summer school was full and put him on a waiting list.

BF and SS4's neurologist were not happy about this at all. SS4 had improved greatly after starting school (late) but didn't during the summer.

So BF (with my help because he knows nothing about computers) looked up what the IEP is supposed to be. Turns out that the plan should have been in writing and BOTH parents are supposed to get a copy, which BF did not. If the plan is changed all involved are supposed to be notified, which they weren't or BM didn't tell him.

BM knows that BF was upset about what happened this summer and she didn't tell BF when the IEP meeting was schedule for - luckily the teacher called him and told him a few weeks ago, then commented that there seemed to be a communication problem. She waited until today to ask him if he knew that it was tomorrow. He said he did and he would be there, she got quiet.

BF is very passive but I told him that it was important to let the school know that the IEP was/is not being followed so that they can ensure that it is in the future. I told him that he didn't have to call BM out directly just tell them what happened. If they conclude that BM is to blame then that is her problem, just tell them what you were told and ask questions. And request it in writing this time so if BM changes her mind later you can take it back to the school and ask them why it changed again.

I hate that BF has to do this and be a jerk but SS4's education is important and BM seems to be trying to hold him back. We are worried that BM will try to hold SS4 back next year when/if they try to put him into kindergarten, she has already slipped up and said that he will be in 4K next year at a Charter School. But Public schools have more funding for special education. And he will be 5 in May so he is old enough for kindergarten next year. I told BF he has to lay the ground work now for what he may need to use it for later.

So BM and him may have words after that meeting (I hope he puts her in her place), she is not going to be happy at all but the IEP is in the best interest of their son and should be followed.

I also predicted that BM would call him today. I baby sit for S6 in BM's weeks and I look in his bag. Last week BM didn't give us the reading log so we asked the teacher for another copy well she responded yesterday in the note book and BM called and snapped at BF that she thought he had a copy already. Which I know that it was sent to her house because I looked but I didn't copy it, i feel she should proved BF with the needed copies like we do for her on our weeks.