Update – My Saturday night from HELL

Please see previous blog for whole story:

http://www.steptalk.org/node/56534

Long story short – DH yelled at me in front of SS10 and his friend. DH said I should stop riding SS10.

I wanted to thank you all for your comments to my blog. Your thoughts on my situation helped me to look at this differently. Your thoughts also helped me to put into words what I was feeling in a way that didn’t get DH all defensive.

I talked DH about how I felt the day I posted the blog. We had a long discussion and I feel like he finally got it. I explained that by yelling at me in front of SS10 he treated me like one of his children and that as a result his children would never respect me as an adult and authority figure (thanks Totalybogus).

I also reiterated that it wasn’t my intent to pick on SS10 but to correct him so that he grows up into a good productive person. I told DH, my delivery sucked, and I can understand him feeling protective about his son, but that he (meaning DH) needed to take a more active role in parenting SSons. I told him it is frustrating when he doesn’t parent them by ignoring their bad behavior (thanks ripley).

I also asked him to explain to SS10 that what DH did was wrong and that DH shouldn’t have treated me w/disrespect (thanks dorothyparkerwannabe). DH spoke to SS10, in front of me, first thing when the boys got to our house on Xmas Day.

Things are better and I am stepping back - letting him deal with all things skid related. It’s hard, but I’m doing it. The day after Christmas I spent the entire day watching TV & reading in our family room and didn’t once check on (translation referee) the boys.

It felt good.

~BettyRay

BettyRay's blog
Log in or register to post comments

Comments

Watch your back! This is a

Watch your back! This is a slippery slope and actually revealed how DH REALLY feels about you; like you are inferior to his children and just a built in maid. Disengaging will be your best bet.

This sort of thing was the first step in a long slide downward to the point where GG gets physical and threatening if he PERCEIVES a slight against his precious angels; even if they don't even enter the conversation.

I am disengaging. I think

I am disengaging.

I think it's important to note though that DH did pull SS10 aside - in front of me - and talk to SS10 about what happened and explain why it was wrong.

I'm not making any excuses for DH but his words to SS10 were sincere.

~BettyRay

Auteur - you are so wise! I

Auteur - you are so wise! I deal with this garbage ALL THE TIME. It's ridiculous HOWEVER, I am starting to employ a new mantra. I am not inferior, in fact, if it wasn't for me they'd be @#$%ing homeless. So - I am not your maid, your slave, your b*tch. I am to be loved, respected and cherished. If not - you know where the @#%ing door is. And when you try coming back in, the locks will have been changed. 2012 is my year, girl. I always enjoy what you post because I relate it to so well.

You are here