oh, SD22, you are NOT going to win

I held off posting about the Christmas Craziness to see if DH was going to continue to hold his ground or cave. Well, he's POd and standing his ground. Woo hoo!!!

My DH is a smoker. It's a habit he developed in Desert Storm and is never going to give up. It is HIS choice to smoke and I respect that. It is MY choice to live with a smoker. We always have Christmas in the Family Room, which is closed off from the rest of the house and no smoking is allowed (one of SD25's kids has asthma and he has NO problem spending hours in there).

SD22 gave DH an ultimatum: quit smoking or I won't come for Christmas.

We have NO idea where this came from. BioHo AND Mr. Pinhead are both smokers and SD22 lives with them. No 'ultimatum' was issued to them. Maybe SD22 wants DH to save that cigarette money so she can inherit more $?? Her motive is unclear (maybe SD22 is trying to be more like Mommie 'Ho-est and boss around DH - just like 'Ho did with her father).

So. SD22's ultimatum was issued. DH told her that if she wanted her presents, she had to come and get them.

Christmas day, the other skids/grandskids came over and we had a nice Christmas without SD22 (and, IMO, it was much more pleasant due to her absence!). As the skids are preparing to leave, PigPen goes over to grab SD22's gift box. BTW, DH gave all of the skids money, as usual.

DH: PigPen, what do you think you're doing?
PP: Getting SD22's gift for her.
DH: Put it back.
PP: SD22 told me to get it for her.
DH: PUT IT DOWN. If SD22 wants her gift, she needs to come get it.
PP: But SD22 said...
DH: I don't care what SD22 said. I'm telling you for the last time. PUT. IT. DOWN. (DH had The Look - you do NOT eff with DH when he has The Look unless you're constipated and in serious need of pooping.)

Sure enough, 30 minutes after the skids left, SD22 called DH, pitching a fit.

SD: Why didn't you let PigPen bring me my present?
DH: It's not his present to give.
SD: It's MY gift!
DH: It belongs to me until I give it to you.
SD: I'll come over when you quit smoking.
DH: Well, that's not happening.
SD: Then I'm never coming over again!!! ~cue the dramatic music~
DH: I'm sorry to hear that. I hope you have a nice Christmas.
SD: I WANT MY MONEY!!! (and THERE IT IS, folks!)
DH: Then come over and get it.
SD: NEVER! Not until you quit smoking!!
DH: Then you get nothing.
SD: FINE!!! ~click~

I honestly thought SD22 would suck it up because, you know, MONEY. She called DH again last night and got a repeat performance of the Christmas phone call. After she hung up, DH went to the family room, returned with the gift box, opened it, and put the money in his wallet.

DH: Baby, do you need this box?
Me: No.
DH: Okay then. Where would you like to go out for dinner next weekend?

Too bad Harbor Haus is closed for the season!

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Nice. Good to see a man on

Nice. Good to see a man on here who still knows where his balls are located. (Mine is one of them too, but they seem a rare breed on StepTalk).

Tog, he used to be a Disney

Tog, he used to be a Disney Dad. Thankfully, his DD habits have gone the way of the dodo bird!

I Will Pay to Attend...

... the seminar or book or TED Talk your most excellent DH has GOT to record & publish on How To Successfully Recover From Chronic Dizney-Dadism!

Really nice to read on this site, thank you for sharing this triumphant episode.

Aniki's DH Rocks!

I think it's the I Bend To No

I think it's the I Bend To No Snowflake's Will.

Seriously, I think he's finally seeing SD22 for what she is. He knows he can't change her, but he'll be damned if he's putting up with it!

You go with your bad self DH!

You go with your bad self DH!!!!

Advice, is it wrong that I

Advice, is it wrong that I found him incredibly sexy when he did that?

Positive Reinforcement

Not wrong at all!

Ha Ha! ( kid from the

Ha Ha! ( kid from the simpsons)

Nelson!

Wow, she is a special kind

Wow, she *is* a special kind of idiot, isnt she? Talk about cutting off her nose to spite her face. Unbelievable.

Kudos to your DH for not caving!!

DH says she is more and more

DH says she is more and more like her mother every day. And that is NOT a compliment!

That's just it

BM can spew all kinds of hypocritical shit. The Girhippo told the skids that "people who get divorced are bad and are going to hell." She forgot to mention that she divorced Chef; that her sainted BM, Battleaxe Galactica was divorced three times and her own grandfather was divorced as well.

When Chef brought this up the skids looked like deer caught in headlights and their mouths opened up like a cod fish.

'Ho moved 22 men in/out

'Ho moved 22 men in/out within 24 months. She's made no secret of the fact that she's a 'ho OR a drunk. SD25 drinks every day. Every. Single. Day. Both she and SD22 have been through more men 5 years than me, both my sisters, and my best friend have in 40 years.

Obviously, they hero worship the 'Ho and aspire to be just like her.

Crapbon a cracker, Aniki!

Crapbon a cracker, Aniki! Becasue we all wanna hero hero worship a ho!!!!!!! lol

Wow I hope my DH is like this

Wow I hope my DH is like this when SD is older! I see him getting more Disney ish instead since she wont have to see him or live with hin

Fingers crossed - it can

Fingers crossed - it can happen!

Whoot!

Touchdown for Aniki's house!

CLove, it was all I could do

CLove, it was all I could do to not shake my pompoms!

Hey baby

You shake those pompoms all you need to!

I was shaking this morning.

I was shaking this morning. *dirol*

No - she's NOT going to win.

No - she's NOT going to win. She's just digging a deeper hole right now.

SS34 still thinks he's going to weasel his way back into my life. Not going to happen - EVER. When I told DH two years ago to keep them (SS and his GF) away from me he knew I MEANT it. He'll tell me that SS asked about me or about my current health issues - I just sort of nod and ignore it.

No, she won't. DH is more

No, she won't. DH is more stubborn. And his way of thinking is that, even if he never sees her again, she cannot change the fact that she is his daughter.

I feel sorry for any one

I feel sorry for any one having a pos like that for a daughter.

Why in the hell would she

Why in the hell would she think she could force her dad to quit smoking? She thinks she is THAT special? Good riddance, I say. Light up, DH!

Hereiam, she's not special.

Hereiam, she's not special. She's SPESHUL!!! With a handful of snowflakes!

Man, I can't decide if it

Man, I can't decide if it takes ovaries of steel or mush to get your baby brother to sneak presents out for you. Maybe aluminum? Yeah, ovaries that look strong and shiny but crumple under any pressure.

You need to reinforce in DH that this is the behavior you love in him. I'm sure you can whip up a quick potion and find something bewitching to wear.

I'd say it takes having your

I'd say it takes having your lying, cheating mother's DNA...

I baked him some cookies in my apron. Just the apron. *dirol*

Good for Mr. Aniki!!

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Wow, very proud of him.

Wow, very proud of him. Hopefully this is the sign of a new beginning.

Be sure to reward him properly and more than once!!!

He's come a long way from the

He's come a long way from the DD he was 8 years ago!

So SD got the best Christmas

So SD got the best Christmas of all - the gift of harsh reality. 'Cause she ain't the boss of DH!

I'm loving this! And I hope youre rewarding your oh so sexy hubby! Things have come a loooong way for him.

Exjulie, if she never comes

Exjulie, if she never comes back, DH will know she only wants his money. Just like her mother!

Oh, I'm rewarding him alright. I dont know if he finally got fed up with the BS or what, but he got freshly baked cookies shortly afterward and I cooked his favorite dinner tonight. *dirol*

If only all parents with existing kids that have remarried

Could do this to put these rude disrespectful little shits in place. Glad to see your man standing up for himself

He's come a long way!

Mine is starting to see the light 4 yrs into our marriage

its just 4 years too long anyone should be expected to tolerate this crap, i don’t know how hubby has survived his whole kids life being treated this way.

he’s been preconditioned into accepting this as normal that part of him shut down and not questioned reality but he’s seeing the difference where me and our kids love and respect in unconditional, he doesn’t need to buy it like he has to with sk and be guilted into giving us what we want like what they do.

I’ve even had people say that these kind of sk can behave this way and still have a right to their equal share of bio parents estate but you seeiously have some who gift it to spouse or charity

That's the thing. BioHo

That's the thing. BioHo programmed the SDs to see DH as an ATM because women have all the power. Women can get pregnant and collect CS. Possibly alimony, too. Courts typically side with mothers - even terrible ones. Men get the shaft.

'Ho didn't 'train' the SSs to see DH as an ATM. After all, they need to learn how to be good providers for future 'Ho-like daughter-in-laws!

Applause for your DH!

Isn't it amazing how rude princASS adult SD's can be when they don't get their way. Oh boo, hoo, no money for you. She reminds me of SD30's DH has to deal with. When DH says something on the phone she doesn't like or when he doesn't do what she tells him to, she hangs up on him.

What a great story though. All DH's need to do such things to disrespectful skids.

I'd tell her, "well you will not get any more presents until you quit drinking."

SD25 is the drinker. DH would

SD25 is the drinker. DH would have to tell SD22, " You'll get your gift when you stop acting like you moneygrubbing mother. You are NOT entitled to MY money."

Congrats for having a husband

Congrats for having a husband who knows how to be both a man and a real dadddeeee.....you have to be so very proud of him for not being held emotionally hostage as most men are more than willing to agree to any terms these controlling people dictate. When you hear of a break through, it is worthy of big praise!

You are here

oh, SD22, you are NOT going to win

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