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Stepmom2.0's picture

Submitted by Stepmom2.0 on Fri, 04/05/2019 - 3:43pm

DH and I have been living like roomates instead of husband and wife. We had to finalized a few things but that's all done and over now. He moved into his new place yesterday. I kept it together when he handed me back the keys. The second he drove off, I went into the washroom to cry my eyes out. Guess I should start addressing him as stbx-DH

I just want to thank all my fellow Steptalkers for all the support and advice I was given. It was invaluable

 

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thinkthrice's picture

Submitted by thinkthrice on Fri, 04/05/2019 - 4:29pm

Is a hell of a lot better than being on your own and being with someone.  Congratulations to have abandoned step hell kudos; you have dodged a huge missile!

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Submitted by bananaseedo on Fri, 04/05/2019 - 4:50pm

I'm so very sorry!  Never easy, especially if you have love.  Death of a marriage is never an easy thing even with skid drama or none.  Allow yourself to FEEL what you want to feel and not rush through any steps and let yourself grieve.

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Submitted by Maxwell09 on Fri, 04/05/2019 - 5:02pm

You know here it’s always a good thing when people leave. A new life. A different sort of freedom. Cry it all out. Cry out what you thought he was then go ahead and start your new chapter with weight off your shoulders. Make the rest of this year prep for a brand new start. 

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Submitted by shamds on Mon, 04/08/2019 - 5:16am

what you requested is basic human respect and manners and that you be treated decently which is what any sane normal human would expect to be treated. It was reasonable to expect and demand this but unfortunately alot of skids and spouses/partners of separation/divorce lack this.

skids have been treated like boss too long and left to run wild from guilt parenting styles with no boundaries/discipline in place, then parents who have been manipulated and guilted by kids and ex and now they stupidly and selfishly bring sane lovely people into their lives except they haven’t addressed these issues and suddenly you’re thrown under the bus and you’re knee deep before you know it and its not so easy to get out when there are kids in the picture and you mull over this whole mess

if partners would address these issues, lay down those boundaries firmly, there would be civility and harmony at home... sadly for most of these spouses they never wake up and they split up again only to drag another person into their mess