Spring break and summer
As of 7:34am, the last skid left for the bus and spring break is officially over.
It was pretty uneventful as far as the skids go. BM had them 2 days, i had them a day, my son had a bad car accident(he's ok) so i had to travel out of state for a day so the older skids helped out with the little skids and the last day my MIL took them just for fun! I spent that day catching up on housework and SD16 cooked lunch and I headed out for work. The pan is still in the sink almost 72 hrs later. Just sayin.
While spring break was pretty easy, i don't see summer going as well. Week after week the skids will be here. BM will stick to her every other weekend schedule when its convenient for her.
They are too old for camps so ill just keep myself busy and leave the little skids with the older skids as often as possible. Could be worse, right. While they are unlikable kids, they dont get in too much trouble so i think we will be ok.
I always looked forward to summer my entire life as a teacher and a mom who loved spending time with her kids. Thanks skids for helping me to dread the upcoming summer.
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It is always tough to figure
It is always tough to figure out what to do with the kids and skids during the holidays, especially when you have to work and the kids are home. (I do hope your son recovers well and fully after the MVA.)
Our spring / Easter break officially starts today... and I am kid and skid free for two weeks. Thanks to my first MIL my BS and SS are in Europe. Please don't think to horribly of me but yay!! I can do with a break now and then from my own kid and skid and parental duty. Some may think me a bad parent, but I like my me time too.
Normally with vacations, I share time with my brother who has a son the same age as mine (also an only child). We tend to alternate time where one of us will take the kids on vacation or have them at home to give the other a break. Luckily our kids do like spending time together and are quite close (they are 13 and 14). Does ease the holiday load. Plus my son's family want him over in Europe during the year when it is vacation time so he doesn't lose touch with his father's family. My MIL has taken both SS and BS this break. (I love that woman!)
Between my brother and my first MIL there is always someone to help with the kids.
The problem is i work
The problem is i work afternoons during the school year so even if Im not "babysitting" the skids are invading my space. DH is not home so they knock on my locked door and if I ignore them they call DH who then calls me to ask if Im ok since I didnt answer the door. I had to shower and get dressed so I can go to work.
Im considering parking my car elsewhere so they think Im not home
I get it, you need your privacy
I understant that. But these kids do not seem awful, one cooks dinner, you feel OK with expecting older kids (stepkids?) to watch yougner kids. Your problem is with DH if you do not get enough "me" time. I firmly beleive that each spouse should get ME time.
Umm... the younger kids they
Umm... the younger kids they are watching are DH's other kids, not the OP's kids.
You are right, I went back and read a lot of this saga
He mades big bucks, put OP and her kid on his insurance. He is paying for the house. She might want to go back to work FT and tell him to hire a housekeeper. Of course, he may say, OK, but kick in for the house. I get it where there the older kid said she could not handle all the childcare.
He doesnt make BIG bucks lol.
He doesnt make BIG bucks lol. He does ok but with 4 demanding kids and a 5 bdrm house I do pitch in for bills...did. I said no more. I quit my job to live with him but we had to get married quickly for insurance. Trust me, i made more and had more without him. I also brought 2 paid off cars in to the relationship so princess sd 16 would have all access to a car 24/7.
We are coming up on 1 yr anniversary. Id rather be single and working again. I worked 2 jobs 11-12 hrs a day + weekends while my boys were in college. They both graduated and I no longer support them.
Now we spend his money and I stash mine since he has no savings to speak of. Yes he make 6 figures and spends it all to the point he asks me for money. I work 2 part time jobs right now. Im used to living frugally. I helped my boys through college and now they both have ft jobs in their field.
Ive mentioned going back to work ft teaching. DH had tears in his eyes. He said he cant go back to how it was when he was raising all 4 on his own. I said then give them back. Im done raising entitled brats and he cant parentso yes I have a DH problem. Doesnt mean i habe to babysit just because I jabe mornings off. I go to the gym and take care of the house then take a shower and go to work.
The 16 yr old cooks for
The 16 yr old cooks for herself but isnt sure how to clean.
I am disengaged and DH knows that. I AM NOT A BABYSITTER.
It seems you married in a hurry
He may not want to support you if you do not help out, but you two need to agree on what is fair.
I ended up joining this site
I ended up joining this site I think around the first week of the school year because I was going insane from SD over the summer. And that was only every other week. You have my sympathy, the thought of every week makes me want to cry