I was going to type a long thing out and give background but I'm just going to get down to it. My biggest pet peeve is a bad attitude. I understand we all have bad days, but that does not give us an excuse to have an attitude at work or school right? Right. I have taught my son this his whole life and when he gets an attitude all I have to do is give him the face and he knows he better but on a front, especially out in public. Anyways, I have a 14yo step son and 10 yo step daughter. When the SD gets an attitude my husband gives her the "look" and she knows she needs to put on a front, especially in public (just like my son). When the 14 yo gets an attitude my husband tells him it's ok to have an attitude but not okay to say negative things while he has an attitude (in public) and allows him to mope around at home, killing the mood for the other two and myself. I let my husband know this and he told me it's because he knows how to handle him and needs to be disciplined differently from the other two, but in reality it gets worse and not better. My husband has told me that was his favorit child because he is a fixer and he's the problem child..... but to what expense is he going to go to push myself and the other two aside, just to kiss the 14yo ass? I treat him the same as the other two and I tell him that if he wants to continue with the attitude he can sit in the car and hand his phone over, and he Just threatens me with telling his mom. Seems like my husband is scared to discipline him but not the daughter which is weird. She is a good kid and her and my son are a lot alike, so it's easy for me to take them off somewhere and do something fun because they deserve it and do nothing. It try go please myself and my husband. I advised my husband but he just thinks I hate his son, and at this point..... I do. I'm over here bending over backwards to treat them all fairly when my husband does not. What I started doing is not acknowledging the 14 yo, and just saying hello to the daughter and buying her stuff because she deserves it. If it were my son, I would not buy him anything either if he treated me the way my SS treats me... so don't say "what if it was your son".