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Johnson_87's picture

Thinking it might be time to separate from DH. Between SD and him I get very little respect. I'm a SAHM and am doing the best I can. My depression and anxiety are terrible to the point only thing keeping me going is my 18 month old. Constantly having trust issues with SD, constantly arguing with DH over SD and other things. I feel they are both against me and I have no one in my corner. I get blamed for everything although I've done nothing but try to help DH. He's told me more than once he feels im using him. I have little to no self esteem. He escapes life by hanging with his friends in a band while I'm home everyday with the kids. Yes even during COVID. DH and I are going to counseling but things are no better. Only reason I haven't left is because I don't trust SD around bio 18months, who I've caught talking really rough to bio on occasions Ivey has to tell her not to talk to her like that. I don't trust DH to watch her. He barely pays any attention to what SD does.

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TiredfrustratedandDONE's picture

I've already checked out... our DS is 9 months, time to make my exit plan. Just a shitty time of year to deal with a break up but what's the point in being unhappy. So do what's best for you! 

Johnson_87's picture

I've come to realize how much of my happiness I've sacrificed so SD could be ok and so DH wouldn't have to be miserable. Not saying he didn't also sacrifice.

Johnson_87's picture

He'll just get SD to do everything. Cooking and cleaning, or they'll eat out. I'm pretty sure I won't be missed.  She's 16 so she's old enough. He'll just have to have her go to school in person instead of online due to COVID. 

Wicked stepmo.'s picture

If you truly feel he thinks so little of you, that you wouldn't be missed. It's time to exit, no one should be made to feel that way in a relationship. You should feel valued by your significant other.

Irene H.'s picture

I'm sorry. I know how terrible that feels. Before SS17 left our house, I felt the same way sometimes. Does your husband know you're thinking of leaving? Maybe it would get his attention, to know how seriously unhappy he/they are making you, how bad it is.

Irene H.'s picture

I'm sorry. I know how terrible that feels. Before SS17 left our house, I felt the same way sometimes. Does your husband know you're thinking of leaving? Maybe it would get his attention, to know how seriously unhappy he/they are making you, how bad it is.