I've been married to my DH for 3 yrs now and we have a one yr old ours and a 16 yr old SD. Prior to bio daughter, or s*x life was pretty regular. We cuddled and showed plenty of affection. I felt secure. Leading up to the pregnancy it was rough for us both, I was sick and dealt with a lot of mental health issues, which left little time for intimacy. Although we did have s*x on occasion during pregnancy when sickness got better. After bio daughter was born, it was hard adjusting and we argued a lot. We weren't intimate, we weren't affectionate, we barely touched and our daughter slept between us. We fought about it, he was watching a lot of porn and I felt insecure because I would ask for affection and barely got it. He basically said because my hormones were crazy and when I'm in my period he watches it. I told him I'm not ok with him watching it while I'm feeling unwanted. Fast forward to now, our bio daughter is 1 and a half, we have some stability with routine. Our daughter still sleeps with us, we are still not affectionate, we don't cuddle, I'm a stay at home mom. We have s*x a little more often, but I found out he's still watching the porn quite frequently. Well, when we are having s*x I get no pleasure other than from oral. He also doesn't last long at all. Only time I'm satisfied is with oral which he doesn't do often. He finishes every time we have s*x. It sucks feeling like he'd rather watch porn and that I don't get anything out of s*x. What do I do, I've already talked to him about how it makes me feel insecure. I have gained weight and don't feel like he's even really turned on by me anymore. I feel like we only do it because of marital obligation. We do get some time to ourselves, but he's also doing a band thing while I'm at home with the kids. I feel like there's a lot of unfairness on my end and I get the short end.