TikTok StepTok..
So, I saw a tiktok the other day where a woman is asking for "honest opinions" about her SO and how much he should pay to move into her rental.
So.. it kind of starts out pretty harmless.. they have been dating.. she has this rental.. paid all deposits.. bought a washer dryer for it etc.. Now her BF is talking about moving in, but they are having issues coming up with what they both see as a fair contributions.
THEN.. she starts in on the "well... it's not a super big place, but all we can afford right now.. my two boys are in one bedroom.. my two daughters in another.. and I want honest opinions about what he should be paying because we don't agree".
Cue the gen z piping up with
"HALF baby"
He should pay half
It's a red flag unless the disagreement is that he wants to pay more than you want to charge him.
He should know your kids are a package deal and bewilling to support you.
He should be wanting to support you and your kids.. at least half..
If he makes more than you maybe he should pay more than half.
Literally 99% of the posters are on this lady's side saying her BF should pony up half the housing cost when he is only ONE of SIX people who would be living there.
SO.. it's not just SM's that have crappy base assumptions about what they should be doing.SMDH.
Honestly, I get that he should probably pay some reasonable adult share rent. but his options would to be to not share a small home with FOUR kids (wish we could tell HIM to run.. lol). so there is a cost to that she has to understand...
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I would rather pay full rent
I would rather pay full rent to live by myself than live with somebody and their 4 kids!
He needs to pay little enough
He needs to pay little enough that he still has plenty left to cover the therapy he'll need.
He is one person out of five.
He is one person out of five. He pays 1/6 th.
This seems to highlight why
This seems to highlight why people should slow down on the whole move in thing. She's got 4 kids already that she should be focusing on. Before having someone move in and be that much of your kids life make sure there's a real commitment. If you're really committed to being a team then finances become easier to navigate. I'm not sure if he should pay half but I would say she should not put herself in a position where she's living in a place she can't afford. He's a new guy, She needs to be able to take care of her kids even if he took off tomorrow. Just saying...
“Be should want to support you and your kids”??
Umm no. Whilst he understands you have kids, he's there building a relationship with you and shouldn't be expected to be surrogate daddy & atm.
How much should he pay?
Stay as much as he chooses. Pay nothing. Keep his own place.
The entitlement brain is strong with these GenZ dipshits.
When we moved in together, DW paid nothing. She was a SAHM for the first 3 years. SS was not mine (biologically). I had zero issue with that arrangement. When DW went to work. Her pay went into the same joint accounts that mine went into.
In this situation, if I were the moving in BF, I would not pay a cent beyond some groceries and a bit for utilities. The GF is already providing housing, etc... for herself and her 4 failed family spawn all I need is half the bed a couple of feet of closet space, a bit of counter for my toothbrush, and a spot in the garage.
Her X is probably shelling out a shit ton in CS. Why should I subsidize their failed family?
These GenZ geniuses think that everyone is entitled to support.
2k for a studio over here
On average 1 bedrooms are running $1,800k and 2 are over 2K.
So, probably 1K for houseshare in our area, but the food and supplies on her.