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Library Book Debacle

CLove's picture

Submitted by CLove on Thu, 02/23/2023 - 5:49pm

Ok I know I am being a blog post hawg.

Just got an email telling "parents of" SD16.5 Power Sulk that a long list of books needs to be returned or total fines will be owed.

$391!

Karma? Or Schaudenfraud? Or both?

When I mentioned it all he could say was "oh sh!t!"

Rubbing my hands together, evil smile on my face, maniacle cackle eminating...

And Im getting emotionally ready for concert tonight after work.

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CajunMom's picture

Submitted by CajunMom on Thu, 02/23/2023 - 6:59pm

And not said a word. Now.... update account so emails go to him in the future. If he says something, minimal words. "Yeah, I saw that. Sorry."

Thats disengagement. 

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Submitted by MissK03 on Thu, 02/23/2023 - 8:35pm

Has she not returned a book since kindergarten? Take yourself off e-mails... Not sure why you continue to torture yourself with being involved on that level with her schooling.  It's one phone call. BM did it to me when we had our falling out. Only favor she ever did.

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Submitted by la_dulce_vida on Fri, 02/24/2023 - 8:25am

YESSSSS!!!! Get off parental email lists tout de sweet!

DROP THE ROPE.

When you're husband laments, listen then say this, "That sounds really frustrating babe. I'm sorry you have to deal with this. I am confident you'll get things sorted out...or...I'm sure you'll do whatever is necessary." Then walk away.

NO MORE REMINDERS. NO MORE BRINGING THINGS TO HIS ATTENTION.

Just be sure that you state clearly that you "trust him to do the right thing" and "I know I won't be living with a failure to launch child after high school." He can interpret that last bit however he sees fit. You don't need to elaborate. Just know that if he enables her to be a lounging freeloader after high school, it won't be in your house - one way or the other.

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Submitted by Livingoutloud on Fri, 02/24/2023 - 8:50am

Is it school library or local library? Regardless, why are you getting those emails? One doesn't need to be tech savvy to receive correspondence from school. It has to go to parents. Also parents who aren't regularly checking email (not uncommon) could request info sent by text. Not tech savvy parents could receive info by other means. 

Next time you receive info from school or library or other institution, remind them the kid has parents, give them parents' info and request to stop receiving this kind of info. 

get yourself off parental correspondence email or chain or list. They shouldn't send you this info.

 

 

 

 

ESMOD's picture

Submitted by ESMOD on Fri, 02/24/2023 - 8:42am

You need to have him have his own email.. and the library card parent needs to be him and only him.. you need to remove yourself.. otherwise.. you WILL be liable for those fines.  stop doing his parenting work.. 

CLove's picture

Submitted by CLove on Fri, 02/24/2023 - 10:15am

So I am off the hook for anything and everything.

I was practicing my schaudenfroud. 

Harry's picture

Submitted by Harry on Fri, 02/24/2023 - 9:01am

Was. Living  a dysfunctional life for 18 or more years.  When they were married ...divorced... now.  
Today is not the day this changes.   The dysfunction is not going to end.  It's just going to go around and around.   Get off the train before it crashes and burns.   There is nothing you can do.  
Yes there is. Take up fishing. It's works for DH. 

CLove's picture

Submitted by CLove on Fri, 02/24/2023 - 12:00pm

Yes!

So - that weekend he went fishing at a popular man made lake for trout.

REAL fishing happens when he goes out to sea and catches the big ones. Requiring a license and those have a season.