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Dogmom1321's picture

I'm totally disengaged and don't even mention SDs name anymore. Even if there is an issue I totally ignore it and avoid bringing her up to DH at all costs. Things have been great since! DH and I haven't argued. 

DH brought up SD13 in conversation the other day while we were on the phone. Apparently, BM made SD a hair appointment for a keratin treatment on Saturday. 

DH: SD13 just called me and she's bawling her eyes out!

Me: Why?

DH: SD was at the hair salon and she said BM started yelling at her! *Gasp*

Me: Well, what was BM saying when she was yelling?

DH: Oh, idk, SD said she was just yelling at her and making a scene. 

Me: So she doesn't know what she was saying?

DH: Something about how she needs to hurry up and she's taking a long time. 

Me: So BM is yelling at SD over how long her hair appointment is taking that she scheduled herself?

DH: Yes. 

Me: Hm, that sounds weird. 

DH: Yeah, I'm not going to mention it to BM at all though, because she will just say that's not all that happened. 

Me: Hm, sounds about right. 

WOW! After I hung up the phone I realized how delusional DH is and that's the EXACT reason why I don't even bring up her name in conversation any more. By DEFAULT, SD is never in the wrong, the forever victim, and "my poor mom" mentality. She's manipulative and plays off people's emotions. SD knew she could get a reaction, sympathy, and attention from DH, so that is what she goes for. 

There is NO way that BM, who probably just spent hundreds of dollars for a Keratin treatment, started yelling and cussing at SD for how long the STYLIST was taking! My guess is that SD got an attitude over something or being ungrateful and BM checked her. I'm super thankful this conversation was on the phone so DH couldn't see my facial expression. Seriously??? It makes him sound so dumb and pathetic. 

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The_Upgrade's picture

Glad your DH isn't here to judge me. If I got a penny for every time I yelled "HURRY UUUUPPPP!!!" to DD every morning......

Dogmom1321's picture

Right!? Anything at all directed towards SD is immediately a personal attack *eyeroll* 

JRI's picture

You're probably like me, you don't believe anything SD says, especially about BM.   Over the years, I heard SD throw her mom under the bus thousands of time, alternating with defending her as the midwest's version of Mother Teresa.  You're right to make a minimal response.

Dogmom1321's picture

I definitely don't believe anything she says! DH seems to have dementia and blocks out all of the times SD has bad mouthed us behind our backs over the years. I've come to accept though that it's not my responsibilty to change his perspective of SD13 though. I don't have to share the same perspective and that is A-okay! 

CLove's picture

Sounds like a FF trainee. Drama drama drama, all the time. 

missgingersnap2021's picture

The joy of when our spouses want to talk about their kids but we we can't say what we want and have to watch the look on our faces. 
 

o never bring SD up and basically have to respond with one word responses when DH does - Yup, Oh, OK etc 

thinkthrice's picture

The Animal Torturer (SD) claimed that the Girhippo would punish her by sending her out shoeless in the winter.

Chef actually DIDN'T believe the AT as he still thought the Gir was same??!!! Both the BM and skids lie all.the.time so when CPS called Chef to report this I just shrugged. 

Rags's picture

Was the question we were always asked growing up when we complained about someone else.

That drove discussion that ultimately identified our ownership in a situation.

DH would have done himself and his spawn a favor by asking instead of just joining the butt hurt SD tear train.

smh

Nea