Always about himself

Last night when DH and I were discussing our weekend plan (also the weekend before DH's bday), SS interrupted asking when will we leave and when will we be back. DH looked at ss comfused becase SS is not part of the plan. Turned out SS just want to make sure no matter where and when we go, we need to be back on time to take him to the event he wants go to.

Mind you, we haven't even finished planning, we didn't even decide which day of the weekend we will go.

this is the same kid that always let us know any event in the last minute (like up to 10 mins before the event starts), and want us to drop everything to fulfill that. And when thing didn't go his way, it is always someone else's fault. (mostly my fault, of course. It didn't matter to him whether it is the teachers that might say anything, if $hit went wrong, it's gotta be my fault).

And I should thank him for not blamming me for being rejected by the schools...(he told me that he didn't blame me even once for those rejections, in tears...I was speechless) At this point I feel everything we can say is already said. He decides whether or not he wants to be considerate, how he wants to live his life...etc, and if he wants to believe the reality is false, so be it.

I told him whether he gets into college will never be my fault, or anyone elses. If he gets into a good school it will be mostly due to his own hard work, but if he doesn't, it could be many other reasons, sometimes luck, but also a lot of times the efforts he puts in.

I think my thoughts have derailed...just thinking of this and want to get it out of my chest haha.

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Does your SS drive yet? If

Does your SS drive yet? If he is applying to college.. wouldn't he be old enough to drive? I guess maybe he isn't responsible enough..haha.

IDK.. kids are just so self centered.. I think that it just doesn't occur to them that their parents aren't just hanging about .. waiting to be able to jump to some assistance.. lol.

At least he brought this up before the trip.. and didn't call you while you were away.. demanding you return early.. At this point.. gosh.. son.. we were not going to be home.. can you arrange a ride with a friend.. or uber?

Haha! that's true!

SS was driving okay (per DH), but he didn't take the driving test before his permit expired, so he has to do it over again. I guess good (?) news is that he didn't need the 55 hours log before he can take the driving test once he is 18. It's his motor skills and problem solving skills that make me concern. Yesterday he accidently bumped into one of our cats and he was crying like the cat is dead or something. I don't know how he will react when he gets into an accident.

But yea, to his credit, at least he brought that up soon this time. His timing can be improved but much better than letting us know 10 mins before the events...

Thanks! And no worries, I

Thanks! And no worries, I know I shouldn't be blamed for anythig that I didn't even do wrong lol

I told him that even parents might have expectation of kids' career choice, ultimately what they make themselves to be is on them. My FIL wanted DH to do something that's completely different from what DH is doing now. And I didn't go the "traditional" route what many in my county would take either. (luckily my parents didn't really need/want me to be a specific job function, as long as I am happy and can support myself)

But there is no easy career, and without efforts he can't go far.

And attending or not attending college right after HS is not the end of the story or the end of the world. He seemed to understand at the end of that conversation, but we shall see.

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Does your SS drive yet? If

Haha! that's true!

Thanks! And no worries, I

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Said this so many times....by

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