THEY ARE FUCKING NUTJOBS
They broke a shitload of stuff in the house
I'm literally shaking
I came to steptalk because I think it's the best place for this
You can understand me and if I talked to someone else they might not
They broke the DVD, fucked up something with the TV so it won't work now but it doesn't appear to be broken, hid my phone somewhere or stole it and broke a few plates and glasses..on one of the chairs..like the part you sit on..is ripped out
the furniture in the living room was moved around and I guess they did more stuff but I won't go check now
And they're in their rooms now, my husband is not home right now and I have no idea what to do
I took baby and closed the door of the room I'm in and I honestly don't want to see step daughters or talk to them or anything
When I looked at the stuff, step daughters just walked by and said nothing..
I really want to hit them
I must control myself but I'm feeling so weird..beyond angry
I've never been in a situation like this and I have no idea what to do
I'm so confused and worried
How did I deserve all this crap
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They are teens I called
They are teens
I called him, he said he'll be over in less than an hour.
I have no idea what can we do about this
And my phone was on the floor
And my phone was on the floor but I couldn't see it..so at least they didn't steal it
Call the cops press charges
Call the cops press charges for destruction of property. They warned you they'd make it worse now show them the real life consequences of their actions.
http://www.freepcnews.com/two-teen-girls-poison-parents-milkshakes-for-w...
Want this to be next on their agenda?
They want you to hit them, they want you to lash out so they can call the cops don't let them push you, stay very very calm hold your baby and surround yourself with calm mommy baby thoughts.
Call the cops. You should not
Call the cops. You should not be hiding in your room from these brats. And doing this in presence of an infant. Even if all that happens, is a police report, document it. And found out what your options for pressing charges are, IN FRONT OF THE BRATS. If you can press charges, do it. And let the officers know that your were hiding in your room for fear of you and ur infants safety.
To hell with DH. If he doesn't like it, he doesn't need to leave them alone with you.
Yes call the cops NOW
Yes call the cops NOW
I can't call the cops, it
I can't call the cops, it will go back to my husband since he is their custodial parent. Basically since they're minors he'd have to pay if they created any damage to someone and he'd have problems for it.
He'd probably be held responsible for this as they could count this as an outer influence (seen it happen) or they would do absolutely NOTHING, saying this is a "teen problem and they should be talked to " because of their "good history" (seen it happen also)
So if we call the cops it's kinda pointles..It's like calling cops on him and that's pointless because it's his house so that'd do nothing.
And we have no proof that they did it..
Well even if we did..Our cops just don't care..You call them they come an hour after and yell at you for being impatient and bitchy
He just got here and he's talking to them right now but I have no idea what's he telling them
I can't go to a hotel
I don't have the money for that and we have one hotel in our town that's a ruin.. but an expensive ruin. I'd have a better time on the street than there.
It's pretty late but I'm thinking of going to a friends's home ..
They did do it on purpose I know that.
But they can't get jobs..
1. they wouldn't do it even if they could and this is the result of us trying to teach them to follow rules
2. there are no jobs even for adults here..let alone a teenager. No one would hire a teenager, it doesn't happen here.. even people with high level education have no job
There's already no fun..they're punished.
I have no idea how to stop them..if it was up to me I'd just send them to live with their aunt and uncle but I don't know will my husband want that..
if this isn't solved i'll have to leave but I don't know what to do about our baby.. I don't want to leave the baby and I'm not going to do that and I can't just take her...
They're not scared of
They're not scared of cops.
Teenagers here aren't , at all. For a few reasons.
Our cops aren't scary. They're bored with their lives and jobs and teenagers actually FIGHT eachother in gangs in front of cops..Cops stand and watch. When someone passing by asks them to react, they just say "kids calm down" and then go on eating their lunch and drinking beer.
And it's actual fights, blood, teeth on the ground and knives. in the middle of the day. on the street.
And they don't do anything. Even if it's out of control PROVEN hooligans who cuss at cops.
It's just our fucked up system in the country..no one can be bothered & no one cares..if you mind, do something about it because no one else will
They aren't afraid of cops and cops can't be bothered to scare them.
If I called the police and told them that, they'd just say "well why don't you parent them lady" or "it's teenagers, what do you expect, paradise maybe?" (this happened ... to a very close person to me)..
and if i insisted,they'd just come there...step daughters would be all nice and then they'd say "be nice girls..it's not lady behaviour to break things " and just go away. or tell me and my husband that it's our fault. ok it IS my husband's fault but we know that already
I'm sorry, but if you haven't
I'm sorry, but if you haven't called the cops on then before, then you don't know what the cops would say. And any teen, whether they show it or not, doesn't like cops involved. And yes, they are minors in ur DH care, but they are unruly. You can file a police report on anyone, and yes, its ur hubby responsibilty. Maybe they can get some court ordered therapy.
It's seems like they are pretty confident, that NOTHING will be done about their behavior, except get rewarded by going to an aunts house. That will buy them whatever they want.
I'm sorry, but you have made several posts about these kids, and you have been given several pieces of advice, some, most along the same lines and you just keep coming back defending your DH, or dismissing every suggestion.
You say you are desperate and hiding in your bedroom. Apparently Its time for some SERIOUS DRASTIC MEASURES. MAYBE YOU SHOULD GO STAY AT THE AUNTS HOUSE and DH can stay their with them, and have them clean up the freakin mess they made. Maybe they need the alone time with dear old dad. Let them scare dad into a corner and maybe he will stand up against his beligerant (so?) Brats instead leaving you and an infant ALONE with them while all this crap is going on.
Court ordered therapy? This
Court ordered therapy? This wouldn't make it to court.
And I know what the cops would say. They always say that. I live here for a very long time, I think I know what happens.
They let kids stab eachother in front of them. They walk away from it.
This is a disfunctional system.
I dismiss a suggestion if it can't be done for some reason or if it wouldn't help. I understand my situation and the conditions I'm in
I can't stay at the aunt's house since she only accepted them because she likes having them over. And if they staye,d they wouldn't clean the mess,they'd make more. They keep increasing the amount of shit they do.
And if he was scared into a corner he'd just do whatever they wanted him to..which is what we're going AGAINST
This time might not go to
This time might not go to court, but if you can document each time, then it could, and if the brats know this, it may even prevent a next time.
I'm all out of suggestions for you.
Well that just enables them
Well that just enables them to do it more. My SS13 was just arrested twice in 2 weeks in 2 counties. He is still awaiting more court dates but he is on probation.
I'd have them arrested if I
I'd have them arrested if I actually could
Since it won't happen we must find other ways :?