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BM still thinking they get "Wife Benefits"???

noidea1010's picture

After reading on here, I know it's not too unusual, but what is with these BMs thinking that exH should still be "taking care" of them?!

Hello! You are no longer the wife, he no longer has to support you emotionally, maybe financially, but only when a court says so. He's no longer there to provide you with medical insurance, unless a court says so. Working together for the benefit of your kid would be nice, but not if you are going to be psycho bitch and get pissed off because he no longer cares if you have a cold or any other bullshit you've made up!

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DaizyDuke's picture

I was just talking about this with someone at work the other day. who does this shit? Like how did Alimony ever come about? Why to spouses think they are entitled to be essentially paid off because they got divorced? I don't get it? My lawyer asked if I was seeking alimony from my ExH when we started divorce proceedings and I was like hell to the no! Yeah, I hate him and hate what he did, which is all the MORE reason I DON'T want anything from him... guess I have more dignity than some.

3LittleDragonflies's picture

Alimony was originally made for women like my Aunt C. Aunt C was a nurse and got married right after college. Her husband was a dentist. When Baby#1 came along, she stopped working to be a stay at home mom. 4 kids and a brain injury from an accident later, her husband left her for his secretary. She is 60+ years old, has a 40+ year old nursing degree she hasn't used in 38 years, and a brain injury. She can't go to work. She's on disability, but that doesn't give her enough to make ends meet. She went from 2 houses, a family, and living the American dream to a 1 bedroom apartment in an assisted living home that she can barely afford. So, she went after alimony.

She has to take him to court every few months because he will stop paying. Bastard.

itsmylifetoo's picture

Bm here pulled that for a while, I requested that that end. She is upset that my so doesnt cater to her emotional needs and she uses the children as weapons when he enforces boundaries. Its really quite disgusting. When I split from my ex, I did what I needed to do, never calling my ex unless a kid emergency...like someone was going to the hospital. And my ex and I are on great terms and I love his so. Fi Smile fightingcrazytrain directed me to google golden uterus syndrom...I suggest you so the same.

noidea1010's picture

OMG! How could I have been so blind! I just googled and read the article on golden uterus syndrome. It's BM, every part and I think SO needs to read all of it. I can't wait to call her GU to him! All I could think of, "my god! it's her!" And I also learned that it's a bad idea to discuss co-parenting with him, when he's dealing with a GU.

TASHA1983's picture

The MILLISECOND my dh EVER did/does ANYTHING for bm I WILL have Divorce papers drawn up! I know that my dh is forced to carry bm on his med.ins. and we are working on that, but other than that...if he gave her a red cent more than the CS order or did anything for her, I would be done! I am thee ONLY woman that gets, or should get, the benefits of having dh as a husband! PERIOD. Smile

itsmylifetoo's picture

Amen

hereiam's picture

Come on now, she gave birth to his KIDS. He should be fawning all over her, and be at her beck and call for the rest of his life. :sick:

TASHA1983's picture

:sick: :sick: :sick:

BLASPHEMY!!!! Wink

noidea1010's picture

^^^^^^^^^^

You must be talking about my BM! She seems to think that's the way it rolls in HER world.

Thankfully SO hasn't done anything of the sort since we have been dating, otherwise we wouldn't be.

She's asked him to do her brakes, he should be concerned about her health, he doesn't "talk" to her anymore, etc etc.

She dragged out their divorce for 5 years (after filing for legal separation), until he decided to take his balls back and file himself instead of believing her lies. She was PISSED!!!! How dare he! Doesn't he care about what happens to her?! Afterall, she only cheated on him, took all their money, and left, leaving SD with him. Yet, now they share 50/50 custody and she keeps threatening to go back to court for full. Whatever, doubt a judge would grant it to you, you psycho bitch. Not to mention, SD is getting to the age where her opinion would matter, although, I can't say for sure what that opinion would be, other then I see she's "Daddy's Girl".

Willow2010's picture

what is with these BMs thinking that exH should still be "taking care" of them?!
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Hate to say it, but it is because the DH's lead, and or let, the BM's believe this.

OMGSTEPMOM2's picture

My DH ex feels that everyone should feel sorry for her. NOT! You were a shitty wife so you deserved to be shit on. She wouldn't have been an an EX if she would have been nice. She was a stay at home mom/wife and didn't do ANYTHING. But yet, expected her ex-husband (DH) to do it all??

Now she feels that all the investments should be in her kids names instead and nothing to me. WTF So you awful kids can take care of your ass?? I don't think so.

Elizabeth's picture

This reminds me of the time BM called DH, because he was on his way to pick up SD, and asked him to stop at the store for milk and something else for her other two kids. She was married, her husband was at work, she was perfectly capable of going to the store herself AND had access to a car. Takes some balls to ask your ex-husband to buy things for your new kids, doesn't it?! DH did it. :jawdrop:

Amy Lynn's picture

BM called my DH one time to pick her up from a bar where she was too drunk to drive home and her boyfriend (the one she left DH for) had been arrested that night for domestic disturbance. And we were in route to drop the kids back off at her house. WTF is wrong with these women?!?

I.Just.Live.Here's picture

BM didn't so much do that to DH, because let's be honest DH didn't have two pennies to rub together when they broke it off, she would do this to the In-laws. Rides, money, groceries, you name she asked them and got it 99.999% of the time because SS was her best weapon. It only stopped when DH went for full custody and the In-laws didn't 'rein him in', in fact, they paid for it Blum 3