FDH has had several conversations so far with FSD15 both in person and on the phone. He has made it very clear to her that I am not going anywhere, she has changed drastically in her attitude and demeanor towards us, and he wants the old FSD back. So there is SOME progress there as I mentioned in my last blog.

The event yesterday that's just a "What the f**k?" moment that is both sad and yet amusing is that his PAS'd older daughter who just turned 20 a week ago texted FDH and was going off about what happened on Saturday at the basketball game. His immediate response was "What the hell do YOU care?" I declined his polite offering to read the texting conversation myself because I disengaged from the useless brat years ago but he did share with me the gist and some of HIS texts.

I was very proud of him - he let her have it, reminding her that not only was she not there but it has zero to do with her. Also she, in his words, could give a crap about ANY relationship with him except using him as a wallet. She actually accused me of being jealous of her mother and ranted on a while complete with profanity and temper tantrum.

After a lengthy and very pointed text telling her flat out that that was not correct in any stretch of the imagination but also calling her out on how the only reason she herself resents me is because I refused to let her disrespect him and FSD15 is now acting just like her which has never been FSD15's personality at all, she flipped out at length and stopped texting. FSD20's type of conflict resolution is the following:

SD: You're an asshole!
her dad: Really? And how am I an asshole?
SD: Because you are!

Reminds me of a grade schooler.

Jealous? Let's see, not only do I have a man that is intelligent, capable, sexy, loving, and my best friend that she willingly gave up because she's an idiot, I am smarter, better educated, have my OWN home not living off my BF, skinnier, younger looking, higher morals and values, and have a job with actual advancement potential. Oh, yes, I cry myself to sleep every night I am not living HER life

I did bust out laughing when FDH told me his very last text to her was "So, let me get this straight. If I break up with Situational and move out, you'll be my best friend?"

FDH and I talked more too about HIS change in behavior the last few months. He's been very preoccupied with working full time, taking two very labor intensive college classes, ordinary home stuff (housework, bills, kids, etc) and the holidays. He agrees that he allowed the communication boundaries to relax with BM simply because he was too busy to deal with her and since she was acting so agreeable and friendly, it was easier to just go with. I explained to him that with the type of Golden Uterus/Narcissistic person she is that, without him intending it, she nows sees that kind of constant communication or flexibility as her due. He encouraged it without meaning to. He understood what I meant and could see how it happened.

Apparently during the talk he had with her on Sunday (that I already knew about but told him I didn't want to hear it) he told her there is no reason for her to pull him to the side every time they are in person at a kid's game (of course it was "I do not!" Whatever, lady. That selective memory schtick works for you so well.) and if it's that important she can email, text or call but to leave him alone and if she does have something like a letter or something for him, she better get up and bring it to him. Also he told her that there is no way in hell he will ever go back to her. She repeated her favorite phrase "Well, I divorced YOU." and was actually rather calm about him saying that to her. What's odd to me? And yes, I'm aware this still sounds paranoid but she was so calm. If my ex said that to me, about not wanting me back, I would be totally surprised and do a double take, like what on earth would make you think I even considered that?

Oh and FSD15 is pissed because she says I keep snapping at her. Really? You do nothing during your visits for last 2 months but sit on couch and text, complain, make constant negative remarks when no one even asks for your opinion, and act as if coming to see your dad is just boring torture. If I don't allow my kids to talk to me or FDH or YOU that way, why the hell wouldn't I ask what your problem is?

"Mr.Sulu... DISENGAGE!"