Gullible Dad of the Week Award goes to....
My DH!!
My SD15 is a chronic liar and drama queen. It's to the point that I don't believe anything she says ever. We had her this weekend and after I went to bed on Friday, she and DH had a 'heart to heart' talk. Apparently things at BM's place is not as rosy as we have been led to believe. She said that she is constantly getting in trouble for things she didn't do and feels her stepdad is too strict with her.
A bit of background:
-opened a facebook page without permission and chatted/sexted with adult men twice her age
-ran up a $1000 cell bill texting an adult male overseas that she met on facebook
-lied about her marks in school under the report card came home
-talks back to teachers and is disruptive in class so she can be with the cool kids
-after her cell was taken away from her, borrowed her friend's phone, installed a clearly forbidden chat program and sent naked pictures of herself to anyone who would ask.
-after was caught in that, stole another friend's phone and did it again!
-told a HUGE lie about me, almost ending my marriage
-just general lies, manipulations that would be too numerous to mention.
Anyway, I don't trust her to say the least. DH knows I don't and understands why. Until recently he had some pretty tight reigns on her when she was with us. A few weeks ago he decided that he no longer wants to be the 'heavy' and will not be punishing her or holding her accountable for bad choices unless they occur at our house (once a month visit). So basically if it happens at her BM's house, school, or where ever, it will not be discussed. He wants her visits to be 'fun' and hopes that this will make her want to come to our place more often. Needless to say, I am NOT on board with this and told him that from this point forward she is his train wreck.
During this big talk Friday night she cried about how horrible her life is and DH ate it all up. When he told me he was expecting me to agree, but I said, 'what does she expect? She has lied for years and she is shocked that no one trusts her?' The best part that on her last visit to us she did nothing but sing her BM's praises. In her exact words, 'the reason I don't come to visit more is that I'm very comfortable at my mom's.' She has no chores or responsibilities there. We insist on her picking up after herself when she's here. Child slave labour! This hurt my DH and lead up to him deciding to cave to a much more passive parenting style.
I wish I could say I'm shocked by him falling for this..but I know he's just so desperate to have a relationship with her that all logic is gone.
Oh did I mention her birthday is next month? I'm sure that has nothing to do with her sucking up to her DADDDDDYYYYY.
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So is she asking in a round
So is she asking in a round about way to start living with yall?
She would just come out and
She would just come out and ask if she wanted that. If she did she would have responsibilities and expectations here...she already thinks we are too hard on her asking her to pick up after herself.
So she is just fishing for
So she is just fishing for sympathy from Dad and a good birthday present.
BINGO I found it interesting
BINGO
I found it interesting that during this heart to heart convo that she did mention what she wanted for her birthday and I know that's what DH will give her to mend her broken heart.
U think thats bad she lives
U think thats bad she lives with us I get no relief she is trying to get the car now which her dad will surley give her. She cnt even get to school on time and when she does she cusses out the teachers. He treats her like his wife. I had to get her a implant in her arm so I wnt be a grandmother. Now instead of trying to sneak boys in her room she can get her freak on in a car she doesnt even deserve. Right on dad great parenting.
Its always the teachers fault
Its always the teachers fault for her getting sent out of class. The teachers just dnt like her and her dad believes every word. They dnt like her cause she disrupts the class just like she disrupts our home.
Same here! She says her
Same here! She says her teachers hate her. I told her they aren't there to be her friend, they are there to teach a WHOLE CLASS. If she is rude to them, they have every right to remove her disruptive ass from the class so the others can learn.
Preach sista I know what you
Preach sista I know what you mean. Her Dad just doesnt get it. He is ruining her life by letting her get away with so much crap. She talks to him like a kid and thats how she talks to her teachers. I dnt blame her I blame him. Bad parenting all the way around. If she tells her little web of lies she gets rewarded and never punished. She Actually thinks she is the head of the class and our household. I told him two years is the time limit she will not be living with us forever no way! Bye bye at 18.