The latest incident with Redface Magee is just one of many that's span many moons.
I can see I am not the only one who is sick and tird of his shit. DH got a call from Sir Tearsalot last night.
Normally we can hear his mom while he's on the phone with DH. She sits right next to him while he talks, last night STA was whispering, and DH said he couldn't hear BM1 at all.
He wants to come live with us. I can't say as I blame the poor kid. So many times when they would be over I would watch him hand over what he had, or give up his time on the video game or computer to Redface, he would also give up a show he was watching so that Redface could change the channel. He always looked so annoyed while doing it, I couldn't imagine my boys giving up their time on anything. I asked him once why do you do that?
His reply pissed me off.
"Mom says I have to. I have to let him do what he wants, or give him what he wants because he has anger issues. She doesn't want him to have a fit."
I told him, and I made sure DH heard me; "Well, this is our house and in our house kids wait their turn anger issues or not. Redface, give the controller back to STA now, his hour isn't up. While you're hear, you do not have to give up anything."
I won't even bother going into the tantrum from Redface about that.
I felt horrible for this kid. How could she make him a slave to Redfaces every whim? I still feel horrible for him. I know his needs are overlooked at his mothers house. DH has asked BM1 about this, she's always said well, he's ok, Redface is my special little baby(she always calls him that and I want to smack her everytime she does) he needs special attention. I don't have to worry about STA, he's not special.
I don't think she meant it as bitchy as it came out, but I bet STA didn't think that. No wonder at his age he cries at the drop of a hat...litterally...his beanie fell off once and landed in dirt, not mud, and he balled for like 30 minutes until I vacuumed the dirt off of it. He tries to joke around with my oldest and middle, but both of them are use to sarcasm and if they joke back, he cries. When DH drops him back home after his visits he cries all the way to meeting place. I think I've seen him cry more often then I see him not cry. I was pranking my kids one night and he cried that I didn't prank him, so the next night I including him in the shaving cream war, and he cried because he got shaving cream in his hair.
It's annoying yes, but I really can't blame the kid. He gets no attention at BM1's house. So I completely understand why he would want to come live with us. Will BM1 just let him??? Oh hell no. DH will take her to court, and I completely understand why he would. I just don't know if DH would have a chance at winning. It's true, she barely gives STA consideration, everything over ther is RFM, RFM, RFM, but is that enough for a judge to change custody? I don't know. DH and STA would be heart broken if they went to court, proved all the things STA says and still a judge says no.