what would you do or say?
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BM apparently decided to have a moment of "kindness" (yeah, ill bet money on it that either her manny is taking the day off tomorrow or she has other plans and doesn't want all 3 kids) and told my bf tonight that the kids could spend tonight with him (he has them anyway until bedtime, then again tomorrow)... IF they want to go with him. She then proceeded to talk about all of the fun things, playdates, etc that she had planned for them and how there's no way she would be able to reschedule all of these fun activities. Hmmmm... It just seems like a recipe for drama..
Sounds like she has plans.
Sounds like she has plans.
*sigh* she got exactly what
*sigh* she got exactly what she wanted tonight. She showed up and convinced 2 of the three to come with her, which was the last straw for her 13 year old (my bf's ss) who is staying with my bf for 11 days (he flew in to see his siblings and my bf ) and wants nothing to do with BM. He flipped out and yelled at her "why are you f***ing with their heads?!?!" To which she had a classic histrionic meltdown in the middle of the street. I'm so sure now that she staged this thing so that she's got an "incident" she can bring up in court. She had nothing before this. Now she looks like the accomodating victim. Brilliant. Just freakin brilliant.
(Yes, she even told my bf in the middle of her meltdown that she was "documenting this ALL for court")
"You can complain because roses have thorns, or you can rejoice because thorns have roses." Ziggy
I thought she was on strict
I thought she was on strict bed rest? Document the fact that she was out and about after duping the courts with her "doctor's note".
Don't worry about her nonsense. Stick to the plan and keep documenting. Document your version of events.
"A pessimist complains about the wind, an optimist counts on the wind changing, a realist adjusts his sails"
There IS a difference between having a different opinion and being an asshole, find it.
Good call svs! The only
Good call svs! The only thing that I'm worried about is that one of my Bf's points in court was that now that she's on such "strict bedrest", she's physically unable to take care of the kids.. I'm kind of confused as to the angle we should take now, as she's clearly up and around, AND after that stunt she pulled yesterday she's going to tey and make herself look "reasonable and willing to cooperate with BF"..
"You can complain because roses have thorns, or you can rejoice because thorns have roses." Ziggy
(And will the courts see it
(And will the courts see it as dupig them if there's actually a note written from her doctor? Couldn't she just say she feels up and down or something?)
"You can complain because roses have thorns, or you can rejoice because thorns have roses." Ziggy
Strict bed rest has nothing
Strict bed rest has nothing to do with how you feel when it comes to pregnancy. It has to do with what is best for your unborn child. I would tell the judge you're concerned for the well-being of her unborn child and that her lack of concern for that child leads to concerns about her regard for the other children. I would still document the entire thing and show all the times she was uncooperative and push that you need a more forceful order so that she can't pick and choose when she wants to cooperate. Tell the judge that while you appreciate her attempt at cooperation, you question her intentions given the timing of the court case and since ultimately she still took two kids home with her. Don't let her behavior affect your plan.
"A pessimist complains about the wind, an optimist counts on the wind changing, a realist adjusts his sails"
There IS a difference between having a different opinion and being an asshole, find it.
That sounds like a really
That sounds like a really good way to put it, thank you! I've already written it down in my court notes binder..
"You can complain because roses have thorns, or you can rejoice because thorns have roses." Ziggy
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