BM moving too fast without considering consequences
A week ago (just before school started), the biological mother of my SD informed my fiance that her and SD are moving into her very new boyfriend's house in the next city, and so SD is changing schools. She's entering senior kindergarden. My first thought was "Wow, that was kind of quick?" only because we've only seen this new relationship take place about 6-8 months ago. Until then, the biological mother was staying at her parents' house, very nice people while she was putting herself through college. I can understand that at the age of 27-28, she may want her own independence, and want to move out of her parents' place, but of course, putting SD's well-being ahead of hers.
Sure enough, SD's only been to her new school, and new home for a week, and we get a call yesterday that BM and SD are moving back into BM's parents' place, and SD will be returning to her old school. My questions were, "how could this happen?", and "how was this not thought through as a serious decision, and how this could affect the mind of a 5 year old?".
I'm very frustrated with how careless this decision was made
Yeah, this sucks. Pretty much
Yeah, this sucks. Pretty much the only thing you can do is be there for your SD when she is dealing with the inevitable fall out from her mom's bad decision.
Our BM does this kind of thing too and it's horrible to see the kids get anxious and confused when BM drags home yet another creepy loser barfly and tells the skids that they will "probably get married." She has told the skids that every single one of her "boyfriends" would marry her. She is desperate to get married and doesn't hide it well at all. I don't know if she realizes how pathetic and losery she comes across when it comes to dating. I wouldn't give a crap, but it really affects the skids and that's hard to watch. The same as you, we can't really do anything and if we inserted ourselves into BMs personal life, it would be an open invitation for her to do the same with us, so that is one thing that will not be happening, EVER. We just sympathize and listen when the skids are confused or upset and other than providing one home at least that is stable, with two committed parents, and it's all we can do, unfortunately.
My first thought was "Wow,
My first thought was "Wow, that was kind of quick?" only because we've only seen this new relationship take place about 6-8 months ago.....
Our BM had two different "new boyfriends", three different "homes" and a new child in less than a year so nothing these crazy women do shocks me anymore!
I appreciate the responses
I appreciate the responses ladies, I feel better about this situation now that SD is back to her norm. She still refers to the "new school" but otherwise has no idea what happened there. I'm glad it wasn't mid-school year!