Help me please! Need advice- new to this :)
My boyfriend and I have been dating for a few months. I'm 22, he's 28. He was married for ten years and has a 9 year old girl and a 7 year old boy. He has full custody of both of them. anyways, him and i complete each other and i couldn't ask for a better boyfriend. we used to go out and have fun and now that his mom kicked him out of his own house, things have gone downhill. trying to do what was best for the kids at the time, he moved back into his old house with the children's BM. she tries to be all sexy or whatever for him and thinks that there's a chance that they can get back together, but he's made it very clear to him and to me, that there is nothing there. it's been two weeks and i've only seen him once. i can't call or text him because he is trying to "protect me." he has been through so much these past few months that it's not even funny. the kids BM questions him everytime he goes out and wants to know who he's with. he's basically on a ball and chain, but due to financial reasons, he doesn't really have anywhere else to go. him and i will be moving in together eventually, probably at the beginning of next year with both of the kids, as he is starting a great job. so here's my question- should i stick it out for a whole month not seeing him as often as i want to and dealing with him living with his ex so we can be happy? i told him i would never hurt him and he told my dad that he would never hurt me. i'm not really having doubts, i just want to know what people have to say that maybe have gone through this before. please help me!
No good.. I'm sure that you
No good..
I'm sure that you want more than anything to believe him, but you have to cut your losses here. He is abssolutely playing both sides of the fence, I don't care what he's told you to the contrary.
Good luck!
Yeah, he got one over on you.
Yeah, he got one over on you. Just chalk it up to a learning experience and move on. There's no way any of us here would make that exception. I'm sorry. It sucks, I know.
My sister believed that same
My sister believed that same lie! BF living with "ex".....she was dumb enough to stay with him even after she smelled the sex on him. It wasnt until the "ex" became pregnant with his/their second child that my sister got a clue.
Get out girly, he's playin ya.
My advice would be to not
My advice would be to not wait for him. It's beyond ridiculous the stories he's telling you.
Get out while you can!!! If I
Get out while you can!!! If I didnt have money, or a job, or anything to my name, that LAST thing i would ever do is move back with my ex. You are being played.
You are too in love to see it. Let it go. Don't be surprised if he comes back to you after you break up, cause at one point or another she is going to kick him out again and he'll come running back to you to do more damage. It's not what you want to hear, but it is a fact. He is not protecting you, he is keeping you a secret and keeping his options open in case this does not work out with hix EX again.
Its your choice if you want to sick there like a doormat and wait. He will step on you for as long as you let him. You need to find someone that gives you your place and puts you first in his life. Right now, you are just crumbs.
I am really sorry, and I know
I am really sorry, and I know more than anything you want to believe him, but he is lying to PROTECT HIMSELF, not you. The other posters are right. Drop this loser, you are 22, you don't need him, and you certainly don't need to be bringing up two stepkids. By the way and I am not trying to be cruel here, but no mother kicks out her 2 grandchildren and her responsible son who is doing his best for kids. Either he and the ex are trying to see if they can work things out (and I suspect that is the case, hence why you cannot text him),and he left mum's of his own accord, or even his mother knows he is a loser. Either way. Dont' text him and dont' take his calls. Move on, I know it is hard, but in 6 months when you meet someone who is available for you, you will be so glad you got rid of this right royal #*&#*
Why would his own mother kick
Why would his own mother kick him and her grandchildren out? U have to ask yourself that!!!! I can't think of 1 single reason why a mother would do that, AND no call and no texts are a major red flag!!!
Sorry hon he is playing you.
Sorry hon he is playing you. His mother didn't kick him out of the house he choose to move in with his ex and is probably trying to work things out. I swear the lies that these guys tell is just horrible. You can't see him because you are now the other woman. Sorry to be so blunt but at 22 you can go meet some nice guy with no kids, no baggage, no ex wife and someone that is a straight up liar. Take care of yourself!