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BM is crazy !!!

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Submitted by honeycombs on Sat, 12/10/2011 - 3:47pm

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So my dh ex girlfriend seems to think that it is normal to keep pictures on her facebook of dh and her . She now lives in the states and we have full custody of ss12 . She is married now and has 2 other kids . She lives in the states and her address and phone number are still that she lives here and the same phone number . So it gets annoying when you keep getting phone calls for her . When she does come to visit ss12 , she walks into my house like she owns it and dh family treat her like she is a god . I talk to husband about it but he doesnt think there is anything wrong with it , what do i do to save my sanity ....

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Submitted by justa102 on Sat, 12/10/2011 - 6:53pm

I won't tolerate BM coming into my house either. Before I moved in with FDH, she "stopped in" to pick up the kids and be nosey. When I officially moved in with FDH this was my line: If I EVER find out that BM comes in OUR place I will make it a point to walk into her house that she shares with her mom and FLIP out on HER and make sure she knows I can be just as friggin' nuts as she is. Trust me honey, I will and I will make sure I flip out on you too.

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Submitted by RaeRae on Sat, 12/10/2011 - 4:54pm

Your DH needs to learn about boundaries. She's no longer a part of his life, and he is not a part of hers. Their child is their connection, and they each have their own (court ordered I assume) time with her--apart from each other.

No woman is allowed into my home unless I invite her in personally.

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Submitted by branmuffin97 on Sat, 12/10/2011 - 4:55pm

The issue isn't BM...it's your dh. He needs a lesson in appropriate boundaries. Seems to be a lesson MANY dh's could learn.

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Submitted by liks on Mon, 12/12/2011 - 10:13am

yeap....the mail issue....

Got the same thing here...and the slag left 8 years ago.....every time I see her mail I get WILD! and why is this still happening after I have lived here for over 2 years????

BECAUSE...DH hasnt told the Post Office not to deliver it????

from now on do what I do....

open the mail and read it...then burn it or put it in the trash.
or.
WRITE ON IT IN BIG LETTERS...

RETURN TO SENDER - THIS WOMEN NO LONGER RESIDES HERE...SHE HAS NO FORWARDING ADDRESS

the 3rd option....throw it in DH's face when he walks in the door saying stuff like 'I am not impressed with getting this shit EVERYDAY.....RAH RAH RAH RAH'

As for her thinking she can come in your house......BY LAW SHE CANNOT UNLESS SHE IS ACTUALLY INVITED....you have the right to request that she does not enter your house in future....FORGET THE DH....he sounds typical and useless just like the rest of them linked to this site.......YOU TAKE OVER HERE AND SAY NO...YOU CANT COME IN....