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Submitted by nelly on Mon, 09/24/2012 - 7:38pm

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So I gave birth to a healthy baby girl 3 weeks ago, followed by 10 steps it free days.. but now he is back, has even taken over my bed to sleep with his"father" since I'm up with baby most of the nights..Skid is 12 and needs to sleep with Daddy, give me a break. So my anxiety is at a all time high when this kid is around, and this morning I told my bf to leave me alone and go back to his mini wife that he is so obsessed with...Bf attacked me and struck me in the eye...He attacked me over a fucking kid that is not even his..So on Thursday, I have appointment for my daughters passport, and we are getting out of this country, and will leave her father to live his fucking lie of a life with that kid...what kind of person puts another mans kid over his own flesh and blood? I am happy the end is near, and I'll never have to see that kid again!

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Submitted by oneoffour on Mon, 09/24/2012 - 8:03pm

A word of warning... does your childs father have to sign the passport application? And did the Dominican Republic sign the HAgue Convention (you can check online) because he COULD get the child back by saying you kidnapped her.

Make sure all your tracks are covered. And if you leave forever, never ask him for support. Meanwhile be normal, nice. Don't make him suspicious.If he hits you again, call your embassy and ask for protection from this wife beater.

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Submitted by dysfunctional in va on Mon, 09/24/2012 - 8:08pm

Wow, I am so sorry you are going through this! I pray it all works out for you!!

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Submitted by nelly on Mon, 09/24/2012 - 8:22pm

He's going to sign the passport application, he thinks that having a u.s citizen daughter will help his sorry ass in the future...And I would think most normal ppl would be pissed if they knew their daughter was going to be taken away, but that is my point, none of this is normal, all he cares about is his "son". It's all so creepy that whole relationship....The police here are a joke, he would be out tomorrow, so really no point in calling them.... I will take the advice on playing it cool until I can get out..

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Submitted by WTHDISUF on Mon, 09/24/2012 - 10:46pm

Oh wow! I've never been abused but I have heard that when they get wind of you trying to make a break, that is when it gets really bad. So please do be careful! It sounds as if you have the legal documents in order but when you are about to go, maybe it's best to tell a close and trusted friend so that someone else is looking out for you as you make your exit.

My own Dh is Father to a kid that's not his and he has some abnormal attachments to the kid due to his own voids and childhood based issues. But he's not crazy, abusive or letting the kid lay in bed with him. (He's 8). What 12yr old would want to lay up in bed with anyone else anyway--even their own Parent! At that age they start really exerting the independence and discovering their identity so there's normally a natural disconnect from Parents as they sort all of this out. So that co-sleeping stuff seems awfully dependent. Please, until you leave, protect yourself with birth control (in case he rapes) and quietly, carefully make plans to leave with your child. Good luck to you and do keep us posted. (I hope your PC is completely private--lock it down or clear your history or only post from public pc's--wouldn't want him running up on anything. As I understand it, controlling abusers are almost always snoopers too).