She casually drops questions to DH all the time, and he hasn't yet picked up on it. She also mentions stuff that she wouldn't know if she weren't stalking my facebook, like the cake I made for my older son's birthday a couple weeks ago. I guess she saw a picture of it on my facebook. We're not FB friends, so she had to go seek it out.

She's asked DH where my sons go to school/daycare in the past, so she knew what she was doing when she applied for jobs there.

I try not to give it too much thought, but it does annoy me that she's so interested in my everyday life. She needs to spend more time on her own life. Maybe invest some of that unused energy in cleaning up that rolling landfill of a van that she drives around.

I haven't said a word about it to anybody (and I'm not going to), but first thing this morning when I got to work, I called the director of my son's daycare and gave her the scoop. I also told her that I'm certainly not trying to tell her (the director) what to do, but if BM gets a job there, my son won't be attending that daycare anymore. I hate that, too, because he's been there for about four years now, and he's really happy there. THAT'S what really pisses me off. I feel like she's running me out of my own life!

I think I will do that. I'll just make my FB private. My attitude up until last night was "Hey, if they have nothing better to do than snoop around on facebook, then let them." Now, though? Nope. Let her get her kicks somewhere else. Nosy heifer.

I really didn't worry about my profile being public, and I don't understand the hysteria over people seeing your kids' pictures. I'm not posting anything lewd or inappropriate. I know we live in a paranoid society these days, and that my philosophy may not be the same as others, but I just don't see the harm in posting pictures of my kids, or anybody else.

If you want to rush into "worst first thinking," they could just as easily attract some pervert while playing on the playground at school, or walking out to the mailbox to get the mail. The vast majority of children who are abducted or molested are pursued by people they know personally. Posting pictures on facebook isn't going to do much to increase your children's odds of being snatched or messed with in any other way. Yes, it does happen, I know, but not anywhere near as often as the media would like you to think it does. And again, most of the time when it does happen, it's by someone the kid knows personally (usually a family member, and in cases of abduction, by the non-custodial parent).

I kept my profile public because...well, maybe because I'm stupid, but in a way, I did it because I don't have anything to hide. I don't have any personal information on there - not even a phone number or email address, and certainly not a physical address - so I just never saw the harm in it.

At any rate, it's totally private now, and only my friends can see my posts, pictures, and information. But again, given that most abductions and molestations are done by people the kid knows, I haven't done much to decrease the odds that somebody may mess with my kids.

It's not on topic, but I'm a follower of "Free Range Kids" thinking. If you're interested, you can go to freerangekids.com to find out more. Statistically speaking (though it may be hard to believe, the way the media bombards us with stuff), our kids are safer than we were when we were growing up.

Anyway, it's private now, and I refuse to delete my fb because of one batshit crazy BM. From now on, though, she'll just have to keep mining for information by plying DH with questions about me and my boys, which she seems totally fine with.