Well today was the day for SS14 to come back. Had plans for SSs, DH and I to go to church service. Church is at 10:30. Father's Day brunch after. BM was told to have SSs here by 10:00 am. At 10:17 I looked at DH and said, " are you getting ready for church?" Response was the bits aren't here yet. I said yeah, well I'm going to church alone then. DH asks why can't you just skip church and spend time with us? My response was, "because I think it's important that we go to church. I told you I wanted to go to church and then we'd go out for brunch because I would be leaving for the rest of the afternoon to bring DD14 to bible camp". DH responded with well the boys aren't here yet. I didn't realize that's what you wanted to do. I guess I didn't hear your whole plan. I'm sorry. But what do you want from me the boys aren't here yet? My response was, "well, you told BM to have them here by 10:00. It's now 10:20. Have you even picked up the phone and texted her that she is late and we had plans?" So he texts BM, "are you bringing the boys back?" She showed up five minutes later and they came to church. I was irritated with the message, as I felt he should have been more forceful with her. That she's late, it's his time and we have plans.

We go to church. After we go to hubby's favorite restaurant and have brunch. We come home, I grab DD14's bag and get ready to leave to pick her up and head to camp. SS12 asks where I'm going? I tell him and he says, " ooh! Can I go with you?" He goes to the same bible camp with DD12 in July. I initially said well if you want to but I'm driving to camp and then right back. Camp is 2 hours from our home so I was going to be gone for about 4 1/2-5 hrs. But then I thought about it and said, " you know what, you should probably stay here. It's Father's Day " DH says he can go if he wants that's fine. I said no he should stay. DH responds (in FRONT of SS12, " if you don't want him to go with you that's fine but I don't care if he goes. The weather is terrible anyway so we can't really go and do anything." This REALLY irritated me. DO NOT SAY IF YOU DONT WANT HIM TO GO WITH YOU....in front of him. I said it has nothing to do with not wanting him to go and everything to do with it being Father's Day and he should spend time with you. Do something with your sins alone today while I'm gone. (Thinking in my head remember....that's what dear SS14 said he struggles with and misses,...that it's not just dad and the two boys anymore it's all of us and that's a reason why he said what he did about my daughter). So I left, ALONE. Picked up DD14 and had a nice chat on our way to camp, got her registered and set up in her cabin and enjoyed a peaceful two hour cruise home by myself. And it was heavenly.

However, remember we are supposed to have this "family meeting" with SS14, DH and I with DH running the show and being in charge of laying the rules down and telling SS14 the deal. Well its7:30. DH and SS14 just took off for a bike ride. SS12 didn't want to go so DH didn't make him. Make the kid do something with you on Father's Day. Not just sit his ass on the couch playing on his iPhone. So off for a bike ride they went, and there has still not been any "family meeting". I have not brought it up, as I think it should be DH to initiate it as he is supposed to be taking over the responsibility of discipline with SS14 and holding him accountable. DH will leave for night shift at 9:30 and I will leave on the morning for work. So when will this "meeting" occur?? This is now irritating me also. So in 9 1/2 hours of SS14 being back in the house I am disgruntled and irritated with DH. And SS14 because he's just walking around like nothing ever happened.